• "Is it wrong to ask my partner for a threesome with another man?"

    Question:

    My partner and I have recently started looking for a threesome with another woman. Would it be wrong of me to ask if another man could be in the room? Or even if the other male can join in?


    Answer:

    Threesomes and moresomes are interesting. Lots of couples flirt with the idea and plenty use it as fantasy fodder or the theme for dirty talk.

    Trouble is, once it's actually happening and you're having the surreal experience of watching your partner's penis disappear into someone else or their tongue wiggling its way up someone else's thigh, it suddenly doesn't seem like such a good idea.

    It takes an incredibly secure person to cope with it.

    Yes, it's sexually exciting and if you're with someone you don't care about that much, it can work.

    But be warned: the emotional fallout can be disastrous.

    If you still want to proceed, I think it's totally acceptable to want to add a man to the mix.

    That's not to say your partner's going to be thrilled though. Many men (and I'm assuming your partner is a man, so forgive me if I've got it wrong) will happily watch their girlfriends or wives cavort with another female.

    It's a standard male fantasy.

    Watching you make out with another man however, is a completely different matter. That's competition. Not just for your affections but his manlihood.

    Say the guy has a bigger penis? Say he lasts longer? Say you look like you're having a much better time with this new guy than you do with him?

    But if he denies your request to include a man, you're well within your rights to say you don't want a woman in the bed for exactly the same reasons.

    If you want to get the thrill of a threesome without the risk, why not try visiting a lap dancing club and getting a lap dance with him there?

    Alternatively, you could phone a sex worker and put her on loud speaker as you have her talk as though she's in the room with you.

    Tracey Cox Dare - What Happens When Fantasies Come True

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