• "I think I have had an orgasm but don't feel finished! What am I doing wrong?"

    Question:

    I think I have had an orgasm but I'm not sure. I have shaking in my legs etc, flushed chest, very wet, but don't feel finished! What am I doing wrong?

    I have a fantastic husband who has done everything for me and I even have a rabbit vibrator that I love. But I still feel like I will explode if I don't stop! It's the same when I masturbate.

    I also know where my G-spot is and can feel it when my husband positions himself a certain way and with his fingers. What am I doing wrong! I have had no other partners to compare this with.


    Answer:

    It sounds like you're fighting the urge to stop when pressure builds. The feeling of orgasm is frightening the first time you experience it - it's common to feel like you're going to explode or that you're about to wee yourself.

    But all that's happening is lots of blood is pumping to your genital and clitoral area. An orgasm is simply the moment when your body releases the blood back into the body, which feels euphoric.

    The pressure builds and builds and if you kept going with stimulation, it reaches a crescendo. When it feels almost unbearable, your body makes the decision to let go for you in one magnificent rush which is your orgasm.

    Once you understand what's happening, you'll (hopefully) feel less freaked out by the sensation. Then you need to trust that your body won't 'explode' (I personally take responsibility that it won't!).

    Take baby steps, trying to keep going just a little bit longer each time and see what happens. You'll probably be more likely to achieve orgasm with your vibrator than with your partner simply because you'll feel less self-conscious.

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