"My boyfriend is travelling abroad and visiting sex shows. Can I trust him?"
My boyfriend of three years is travelling while I'm going to college here.
Although I initially told him that maybe we should turn a blind eye to any indiscretions that might happen in this time (partly I guess because I was looking for reassurance from him) he said that he didn't want this; that he would be faithful and he didn't think he was capable of cheating on someone anyway.
Now I find out (through a friend) that he and his friends have been going to sex shows in Bangkok and I'm secretly fuming and very jealous! Do I still trust him? I can feel myself switching off... Help!
Going to watch a live sex show isn't being unfaithful in my books, or an indication he's about to be.
If you went to a strip club on a friend's hen's night and watched male strippers, would you consider you'd been unfaithful to him?
No, I didn't think so. Yes, a live sex show is more hard core but the fact he's watching rather than having any physical contact, counts for a lot don't you think?
Yes, it's probably not something you relish but the guy's travelling with the lads and taking in a live sex show is pretty much obligatory when going to Bangkok.
I would still trust him but I would also let him know you know his 'secret' and ask him if he's still happy with the pact you made.
If you keep things light and non-judgemental, you'll soon gauge by his reaction where his head's at now.