"I know where the clitoris is but I can't find it with my new girlfriend. What can I do?"
I know where the clitoris is but for some reason, I can't find it with my new girlfriend.
I'm not sure if it's really small or if I am doing something wrong but it doesn't seem to be where it should be.
I don't want to ask her where it is for fear of her thinking I'm a useless lover.
If you're having trouble finding her clitoris, she might not be ready for you to! It will swell and become obvious once she's aroused.
If it's still not obvious then say, 'Show me where it feels good to you?'. She'll direct you to the most sensitive part and you won't silly or sexually stupid.
Not that I'm doubting you know where it is but just in case, remember you're looking at the top end of her vagina (nearest her tummy not her bottom) for a teensy weensy marble that could be tucked inside a hood of skin.
When it's aroused, the clitoris usually comes out to meet you but if not, try licking the hood itself gently and see if that works.
I'm suggesting oral sex rather than using your fingers because the tongue is softer than your fingers will ever be plus you've got a front row seat to see what you're doing.
If it still doesn't emerge, place the heel of the palm of your hand on her pubic mound (the fleshy bit), fingers pointed to her belly, then push up toward her tummy. This stretches her and effectively exposes what you're looking for.