• Sex Advice: Simple tips for getting into bondage

    Simple tips for getting into bondage

    To break out of the predictable patterns of love making, you may consider trying bondage and tie-up games. You can discover a whole new world of excitement, fun and incredible pleasure!


    If you're adventurous

    • She's on her hands and knees, he ties her feet and hands and then enters her from behind. As she 'struggles', she pushes back against him, increasing the pleasure.
    • She ties him up and sites astride him, facing away. Firmly grasping the root of his penis with one hand, she uses the other to stroke upward rapidly. Stopping for one second every three, she keeps going until he's about to climax, then climbs on top to finish him off.

    If you're less daring

    • Test the waters - if someone's not sure how they'll feel being tied up, hold their wrists together above their head with your hands during sex or instruct them to keep their hands behind their backs or they'll get 'in trouble'.
    • Make it plain it's a fun tie-up session, rather than serious S&M. If they're really nervous, tie them up with toilet paper, which gives the feeling of being held hostage without any threat (at all). Using everyday objects - socks, scarves or old stockings - makes it seem less threatening than serious-looking handcuffs or hard rope.

    No matter what you do, make sure you play safely

    • Don't use knots that tighten if the person tied up struggles.
    • Make sure it feels comfortable their end by slipping one finger between the bond and their wrist or ankle before tightening the knots.
    • Keep a pair of scissors or the key to handcuffs handy in case they (or you) have a sudden "Get me out!" panic.
    • Never keep someone tied up for more then half an hour - especially if they smoke or drink heavily (it's not fab for dodgy circulation).
    • It should be common sense never to suspend anyone by their wrists, ankles or neck (that's called autoerotic asphyxiation - something I don't recommend).
    • If you're using a gag, make sure the person can breathe and make a noise.
    • Never - no matter how funny you think it would be - leave someone tied up alone in a room. This isn't the time to pop out for a carton of milk.

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