"My cheating boyfriend wants me back but I feel like I'm chasing him. What should I do about this?"
I recently split with my boyfriend about three weeks ago after a one-year relationship. Our relationship was always serious, right from the start, and we were both crazy about each other.
Towards the end of the year together, I found out that he had cheated on me with one of my mates! It didn't stop there, he also cheated on me with five other girls while we were 'on a break'. We didn't have a break. He's now coming back and pledging undying love.
I do miss him and would love to give it another chance but I don't think I could trust him not to hurt me again. He put me through hell for three months but part of me just wants him home.
I don't know what to do next. I feel now, that I'm the one chasing after him again, when it should be the other way round.
You're damn right it should be the other way around. He should be on his knees begging forgiveness and even then, I'd still tell him where to go. This guy doesn't love you!
He's cheated on you repeatedly. Once is bad enough but a total of six times (that you know of!) is unforgivable. The saying 'once a cheater always a cheater' is true. Very few people who have a history of cheating ever change.
If you take this guy back he will do the same thing all over again, you will feel like you've been kicked in the teeth all over again and be back to where you are now. Yes, it's painful and you want the 'nice' part of him. But that only comes with the horrible part - the cheating.
Don't kid yourself he will change, he won't. I guarantee it. Tell this guy he's blown it and you have absolutely no respect for him and never want to see him again. Believe me, after a few months you'll get over it and wonder why you ever dreamed of giving him another chance when he's let you down so badly in the past.