"Are gels that tighten the vaginal muscles temporarily during sex safe to use?"
I’ve been reading a bit about muscle gels that tighten the vagina temporarily during sex. I’ve had two children and I don’t think I feel different but maybe it’s just been so long since I had sex, I’ve forgotten!
Can you tell me if these work and if they’re safe? I’ve asked my husband if I feel too loose and he says no but I don’t think he’d say ‘yes’ for fear of hurting my feelings!
Most honest opinion on these gels is you’d be wasting your money. Even if you notice a difference, it’s so small it’s hardly worth it. They can also feel irritating. What you can do, that will work is to start doing what’s called ‘kegel’ exercises on a regular basis.
These require effort on your part and it's not quite as easy as simply applying a gel, but they will make you tight and toned if you do them regularly.
Here’s what to do: First identify the muscle group by cutting off the flow of urine next time you have a pee. Focus on this muscle, squeeze and hold it, imagining you’re pulling the walls of the vagina together.
Work up to daily sets of 10, holding each squeeze for two or three seconds before letting go. Then sets of 25.
Ultimately, you’d build up to five sets of 25 per day, holding the muscle for five seconds each go. Do this for a few months and you’ll be as good as new!