"I want to give my new boyfriend great oral sex. Have you got any pointers or tips?"
I've recently started seeing a guy who is really keen on receiving oral sex. Problem is, I'm not exactly brilliant at it, and I don’t want to put him off by lack of skill.
Instead I want to be the best he's had! Could you give me some pointers or some tips that could help me out with this?
If you want thorough step-by-step guides which go into specific detail, you’ll find them in lots of my books. Try supersex for starters. Some basics though: enthusiasm counts for more than technique - the more you want to be there doing it, the more he’ll enjoy it.
Tease him a little before going there and instead of doing it in bed, drop to your knees while he’s standing, and unzip his jeans. You’ll turn him on more and you have more control. Use one hand to hold the base of the penis so it doesn’t flop out of your mouth and use the other hand as a guide. Then slide that hand up and down his penis as it’s moving in and out of your mouth.
Don’t pull your lips in to cover your teeth, push them out so your teeth are safely out of the way, then close your mouth around him and encircle his penis so there’s a firm but comfortable pressure. Practice on your finger.
Then move into a twist and swirl: make a gentle twisting motion with your hand as you’re sliding it up and down, and swirl your tongue around the head of his penis every time you’re up that end. Start off agonizingly slow and increase the rhythm and pressure as he approaches orgasm.