"I'm engaged to a great guy but I'm very self conscious. How can I open up?"
I'm 26 and I'm engaged to an amazing man. We get so turned on by each other but I'm not confident in bed at all, we always just end up doing it missionary style, which I love but it just feels like a routine.
I'm very self conscious and think this is part of the problem. Please help, I love my fiancé so much and don’t want him to get bored of me!
The way to tackle this one is to confess to your fiancé that you don’t feel confident in bed and want to explore sex with him so you both have a fantastic sex life ahead of you. Choose a time when you’re both getting on well and tell him you need to talk about something that’s worrying you, then simply tell him what you’re told me here.
If he loves you - and I’m sure he does - he will reassure you on how much you turn him on and be thrilled you want to try some new things together. If he’s a little shy and/or inexperienced, why not invest in some good sex books, go through them together and choose some positions and techniques and things that appeal to both of you.
If you’d like to start with some of my books, I’d recommend Hot Sex as a good starter and Sextasy for when you’re feeling a little more confident. It’s not just important for you sex life that you tackle this one. You need to be able to be honest and learn to talk through problems in order for the marriage to be successful.
The first time you bring up something like this is a little daunting but you’ll find once you start talking easily about sex, it starts to become second nature.