"Can you catch herpes from kissing someone who has cold sores?"
I’ve just tested positive for herpes - oral herpes but on my genitals. My boyfriend is accusing me of cheating but I haven’t slept with anyone but him for years and he frequently gets cold sores on his mouth. Could he have given it to me?
Most definitely. The virus is most contagious during and just before an outbreak and easily spread through oral sex, even if there’s no visible cold sore.
Some people know when an attack is imminent - they feel a tingling, fever or flu-like symptoms - but many don’t. Herpes can also be spread through a process called ‘shedding’, when the virus is active on the skin but the person has no symptoms at all. Show your boyfriend this response as proof of your fidelity.