"My boyfriend won't go down on me. How do I convince him?"
My boyfriend won't go down on me. How do I convince him or make it a better experience for him? I feel like I've tried everything including a healthier diet, shaving differently, etc. If he ever does goes down, he loses his erection! Help!
Did he have a bad experience with oral sex before? Ask him directly if he has. An early experience with a girl who perhaps wasn’t so hygienic or had an infection which made it all a bit, well, smelly down there can put some men off completely. If he’s obsessed with cleanliness, maybe shower together first and turn it into foreplay or shower just before sex yourself. (A healthy vagina has a pleasant smell, so if find there is an odd odour, it’s worth getting checked out by your GP, switching to non-soap products, wearing cotton underwear and giving those skinny jeans a miss for a bit.)
Having written all this, it sounds like you have already addressed all these issues. As for shaving differently… well, have to say I’ve never heard that as an excuse before! And I suspect an excuse is what it is. My overriding instinct on this one is that this has nothing to do with how you smell or whether you’re too stubbly and more about him not knowing what to do once he’s down there. Far easier to complain about all these other things than say straight out that he doesn’t really know what he’s supposed to do to give you pleasure. So it’s up to you to teach him.
Try buying a few good general sex books as a present for the two of you. Pretend you bought them because you want to try some new intercourse positions. (Men have no problems referring to a book for that. It’s practical and they’re not supposed to know every position in the Kama Sutra.) Make sure the ones you choose have good guides on how to give a girl oral (in my range Supersex or Sextasy would be good options.) He will hopefully read them when you’re not around.
Continue to encourage him to try and don’t worry about him losing his erection. He’s going limp because he’s nervous about not performing and this is about your pleasure not his, after all! When he does go down on you, gently tell him what feels good and what doesn’t and even if he doesn’t get it right the first few times, give him lots of positive feedback until he does get the hang of it.