• How To Use A Strap-On

    Sextasy by Tracey Cox

    Straight women can use strap-ons to anally penetrate their boyfriends, while some lesbians use them to penetrate each other.

    If you've never used a strap-on dildo, you probably think they look scary or even faintly ridiculous (OK, seriously ridiculous). But regular users swear they're the best invention for penetrative sex since God invented the penis. So, think you'd like to try using one but aren't sure how? Everything you need to know is right here!

    For her to use on her:

    Not all lesbians like it, but the experience of penetrating someone is incredibly erotic - it's a power rush and you feel naughty and edgy doing it. Best of all, with a strap-on dildo you get to pick exactly what length and thickness suits you! Dildos are the world's oldest sex toys, so not surprisingly there are loads to choose from.


    Once you've chosen one (or several) dildos that suit you, pick a harness to suit. (You can hold the dildo in your hand but a harness means your hands are free to stimulate other bits).

    The standard model has straps which go around your thighs and another around your waist. The dildo is either already attached or fits into a pocket. It's a very good idea to practice wearing a strap on before trying it out with your partner, just in case you get a fit of the giggles or feel silly. Some women roll a condom on the dildo and use lube too.

    Unlike 'normal' intercourse, it's the person on the receiving end who is in charge during strap-on sex.

    The reason why? A penis has nerve endings, a dildo doesn't - so the wearer has no idea how deep they are really going. Make it pleasurable rather than painful by speaking up and being specific about what you'd like (a slow, circular grind or hard thrust, etc). Be warned: thrusting with a strap-on is not as easy as you think! It can take more than a few practise sessions before you become proficient, but you will get the hang of it eventually!

    The woman wearing the harness usually orgasms by positioning the straps or base of the dildo so it's rubbing on their clitoris. Some harnesses include a small pouch designed to hold a small vibrator in just the right spot, or you could slip on a vibrating penis ring (turning it around to work on you, rather than your partner). As with penis penetration, she'll need foreplay first and is likely to get just as bored as straight women do if you go on and on and on (and on).

    For her to use on him:

    Being penetrated by a woman is a novel experience for a guy since he's normally the one poking things into holes. It's not something frequently requested by a lot of men (though it isn't uncommon), so I really wouldn't 'surprise' him on his birthday by disappearing to the bathroom and emerging with a huge life-like dildo strapped over that delicate, wispy thong. It's one thing having a tongue or finger or even a teeny weeny vibrator inserted anally, quite another a full-size penis. For a start, he's got to be sexually secure enough not to panic it makes him gay. Secondly, you need to build up to anal sex with a dildo the same way you would for anal sex with a penis.

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    Comments (1)

    • Roger: April 25, 2014 01:08
      Thank you for having this non-judgemental information avail. and for writing these books.

      I like your pictures too; You are stunningly beautiful woman.

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