• How to Give a Great Blowjob

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    When researchers asked a group of college kids which they'd pick if forced to live without either intercourse or oral sex, both sexes gave penetration the heave-ho. I'm with them! As much as a hard, throbbing erection is desperately appealing, a soft, warm tongue is damn near irresistible.

    So, with no further ado, here's a lick-by-lick guide to blowing his mind!

    Get into position:

    He stands and you sit facing him on the side of the bed (or a piece of furniture of the appropriate height). It's more comfortable for both of you and it leaves your hands free to stimulate his penis, nipples, testicles, perineum etc, without getting cramp.

    It also gives you control over how deeply he thrusts into your mouth. Some men say their legs go wobbly during orgasm but most can survive if they collapse on the bed immediately afterward!


    He stands, you kneel in front of him:

    It's more comfortable than lying down beside him, and the chief appeal is you being in the classic 'submissive' pose.

    Give good eye:

    Leave the lights on so he can see what you're doing. Give him real front seat action by tying your hair back as well. If you're brave, hold eye contact while you're fellating him; if you're too embarrassed, look at his penis instead.

    Lick your way downward:

    Until his penis is straining for attention, then bypass it completely by licking down the outside of his thighs until you reach the inside of his knee, then move back up his inner thigh until you get to his testicles. Stop right there and lick them.

    Add hands:

    Get the hand motion under control before you add your mouth. Don't tug or yank at the foreskin if he's uncircumcised. Instead, manipulate it so it slides up and over the head and again, remember to keep things nice and slippery. Use your hands, not your mouth, to control his penis and always use two. One holds the penis so it doesn't move all over the place, the other touches him elsewhere. It also takes the pressure off – literally – if you alternate between two kinds of stimulation simultaneously.

    Use lots of saliva:

    Before you head downward, let loads of saliva pool in your mouth. It really can't be too wet for him inside there, so keep some water close by if your mouth gets dry. The more lubricated he is, the more pleasurable it will feel.

    Lower for a lollypop lick:

    One fabulously long lick from the base of his penis right to the top - then, cover your teeth with your lips, make an 'O', and in one smooth movement, slide your mouth over his (by now straining) erection, taking him as far into your mouth as is comfortable.

    Move from there into the bread-and-butter stroke:

    With one hand, grip the bottom of the shaft while you slide your mouth up and down, using your tongue to keep everything nice and wet by swirling it around the shaft. The basic hand movement stays the same: slide your hand up and down, closing it when you reach the head, opening it slightly as you slide down the length. Establish a regular fellatio rhythm first, then move into the twist-and-swirl.

    Make a twisting motion with one hand as you're sliding up and down and swirl your tongue around the rim of the head, paying particular attention to the frenulum (the stringy bit of skin on the underside of his penis).

    Access all areas:

    Keep stimulating other areas while you're fellating him. Try firmly stroking (or massaging in mini-circles) the perineum (the area between his anus and testicles).

    Stroke his lower abdomen - the area below his belly-button -and the base of his penis just as he's about to orgasm.

    On the home run:

    As with women, it's important you maintain a steady rhythm to build excitement. As he approaches orgasm however, step up the speed and pressure. The fellatio finale Decide if you want to finish him off in your mouth. (It's pretty easy to simply hold the ejaculate in your mouth and spit it into the sink or a tissue afterward, if you don't want to swallow). Another good alternative: use your hands to continue masturbating him and let him orgasm over your breasts.

    The Sex Doctor Book by Tracey Cox Sex Advice

    Comments (2)

    • Nikki: August 25, 2014 11:04
      Thanks for the very good guide, but I disagree on the "add hands" part. My boyfriend says that using hands during a blowjob is a bit of a cheat -- and I tend to agree -- a great blowjob should be lips and tongue only, and both of us prefer that he cuffs my hands behind my back during a blowjob. One other hint: you say "if you're too embarrassed, look at his penis instead". An alternative is to wear a blindfold. From experience, I know that giving a blowjob while handcuffed and blindfolded is fun, and it really helps (or makes?) me focus on what I'm doing with my mouth ;-)
    • Barry B.: August 03, 2016 08:40
      As a person that really loves giving blowjobs, these tips are helpful. I do use my hand a little but let my lips and tongue do most of the work. It is so much fun to give a blowjob that I consider it my favorite passion.
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