• How to Give Her the Best Hand Job She's Ever Had

    waterbased lube by tracey cox

    Genital massage has been around for thousands of years, but has only recently been discovered by western society - and westernised, of course! The true, unadulterated version draws heavily on the Kama Sutra and is preceded by all sorts of bizarre, complicated rituals. But for our purposes, we'll skip straight to the nitty-gritty. These techniques are easy to learn and can transform the most mediocre lover into a wow-honey-that-was-incredible sort overnight!

    Most of these techniques work best if she's lying on her back with her legs apart and you're kneeling between them. Put pillows under her knees and let her legs fall open naturally. You must use good quality lube for all of these techniques! Warm the lubricant by rubbing it between your fingers. Ask her to tell you which strokes feel best: firm or gentle (err on the side of gentle if you're unsure). She'll push against your hand if she wants more pressure. Keep the rhythm regular and don't chop and change techniques too much. Watch her face - if it's relaxed, so is her body.


    4 fab erotic massage techniques:

    Awaken the clitoris:

    Lie next to her or kneel between her legs. Using the knuckles of your first two fingers, knead the outer labia lips, moving backward and forward while massaging. Make sure you're kneading, not pinching. Working downward, massage the whole labia with a firm but gentle pressure. Move downward toward the anus, then lift your hand and start from the top again. Use your thumb and first finger if that feels more comfortable.

    The basic stroke:

    This is the easiest and simplest way of giving her pleasure. Rest your thumb and index finger at the top of the vagina (the end where the clitoris is) on the inside lips. Rotate your fingers around the top of the clitoris, then move your fingers downward. Massage and roll evenly, rubbing up and down on either side of the vagina, settling into a steady rhythm.

    The clock

    Imagine a clock dial surrounding the vaginal area. The top (near her pubic hair) is 12 midday. The bottom (near the vaginal opening) is 6pm. When she tells you what feels good, it's easy to memorise the position (2pm, 10am etc) for next time.

    Using the tip of your finger, move around the clitoris in a circular motion. Using bigger circles, continue the circular motion down the entire length of the vagina, alternating with stroking, teasing, caresses with your fingertips.

    Now move back to the clitoris and circle directly over it with a fingertip Some women don't like direct clitoral stimulation, so check with her which area feels best when stimulated, using the 'clock' as a guide. Try 'pulling' the clitoris between two fingers. It's not actually possible to get a grip on it, but the pulling motion feels fantastic!

    Double-action stroke:

    This works on the G-spot and clitoris to bring most women to orgasm.

    Insert a finger (or two) into her well-lubricated vagina, curving them so you're working on the front wall (aim towards her tummy). Hold your finger still for a few seconds but don't apply pressure until she feels comfortable. Feel around with the fingertips, asking her to tell you where it feels the most sensitive.

    The area may feel textured or 'ridged'. This is the G-spot (or more simply, the most sensitive area on the front vaginal wall). Move your finger/s in a 'come here' motion, like you're beckoning someone over with your finger. Keep the movement regular and firm and try zig-zagging so your fingers pass over the spot without concentrating on it too directly.

    With your other hand, circle the clitoris with your finger, thumb (or a vibrator). Move directly backward and forward over it as she's about to orgasm.

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