• 10 Ways to Make his BJ Even Better

    Supersex Beginner's Butt Plug

    Giving great oral is part attitude, part technique and a whole lot about enthusiasm. These are my top 10 tips for a magical combination of all three.

    1. It's a treat not a chore. Act like giving him a BJ is a huge favour and something you're dreading doing, and no matter how skilful your tongue techniques, it's not going to work.

    2. It's what you do before the BJ that counts. The more foreplay and teasing he's had, the more sensitive he'll be. Just as you hate him diving straight for the clitoris, he hates you pouncing immediately on his penis. Kiss and stroke everywhere, glide up the inside of his thighs, pay attention to the area of his tummy his erect penis sits on, and bite his neck and his lips.

    3. Pick your position. Being able to watch is all part of the male fixation on fellatio: men are erotic visualists. Kneel in front of him and hold eye contact during oral. The worst position of all is the one most women go for: lying beside him on the bed. He can't see anything, it's awkward and you can't use both hands.


    4. Don't just focus on his penis. His anus, perineum, testicles - all are erogenous zones you should pay attention to before and during a BJ. Get him to lie on his back, then lick and stroke him on the perineum (the hairless bit between his anus and testicles), massaging the area using quite firm pressure. Bend his legs back and lick from the base of his anus through to the scrotum. Cradle his testicles in your hand, lick them, and take one or both in your mouth.

    5. Use two hands. One hand holds him at the base of the shaft of the penis, the other either slides up and down as a guide for your mouth or stimulates him elsewhere. Keeping one hand on the base not only controls how deeply you take him into your mouth, it stops him flopping about.

    6. Get him to demonstrate. Learn from the expert how your man masturbates himself. Watch where and how he positions his hand. This is crucial because it affects where and how the foreskin moves (if he's not circumcised) and how firm he likes it. Some men use their fingers in a jerky motion, others use a fist.

    7. Add a swirl. The basic technique of pumping up and down is effective but boring. Vary it by moving into a twist and swirl. Make a gentle twisting motion with your hand as you're sliding it up and down his penis and swirl your tongue around the rim of the head, paying particular attention to the frenulum (the little 'frilly' bit of skin). Basically, the more your tongue moves around while he's in your mouth the better! Tense it, vibrate it, make it flat so it covers a bigger area.

    8. You control the pace. Don't let him thrust to meet your mouth or put his hands on the back of your head. Instead, get him to stay still while you do all the work. That way you can tease. Start off agonisingly slow, then up the rhythm and pressure as he approaches orgasm, then slow it all down again.

    Take him to the brink of orgasm so he experiences that intensely pleasurable pre-orgasm wave several times, then stop fellating him and use your mouth on his testes, the perineum and his anus before returning.

    9. Add a finger. The male G-spot is the prostate gland, easily accessed by sliding a well-lubricated finger inside (you, of course, placed a bottle of Supersex anal lubricant within reach before you started!). This is assuming, however, that he likes anal stimulation and you've done it before! If he does, gently inserting your finger and massaging the gland will result in an almost violently intense orgasm. If he (or you) don't fancy it, instead press up firmly between his legs with the top side of your hand or press the perineum firmly with your thumb.

    10. Don't blow the finale. The best BJ in the world will slide from fantastic to feeble if you react badly to his ejaculate. It's semen, not sulphuric acid! Making faces, say 'yuk!', spitting it out or leaving him spurting into thin air - these are not only insulting, but you've robbed him off the most pleasurable part of a BJ, having an orgasm!

    Work out beforehand what you plan to do when he ejaculates. If you're going to swallow, do it graciously and properly. If you don't want to, at least keep stimulating him with your hand or allow him to ejaculate over your breasts or neck.

    Once you've mastered oral pleasure, why not move on to perfecting your hand-job technique? Check out Hand-Job Techniques to Try Tonight from the archives for illustrated methods adapted from the Kama Sutra.

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