More Orgasms For Her... Faster Part 2
Remember when you were a kid and tried to touch a rainbow? Orgasms can be just as elusive.
Reach just a little higher, you think, and you'll have one but the next minute, it's slipped through your (or his) fingers. Men rarely have problems reaching orgasm - women usually do.
The good news is there's lots you can do to increase your orgasm potential.
Use different stimulation for each orgasm
You've got more chance of having more than one orgasm if it's via a different means. Alternate oral sex with intercourse with digital stimulation (that's his fingers rather than digital telly, but while we're on the topic, a bit of porn playing in the background could be just what you need!)
If he's too close to coming, change activities. Get him to give you oral sex until he feels more in control.
Make your last orgasm a vibrator induced one. It's by far the easiest means and if you use one with strong vibration (like the Supersex Pleasure Wand or Supersex Power Vibe) you're pretty much guaranteed to get there.
Remember to breathe
How you breathe is important - though not all experts agree on the method.
Some say holding your breath on orgasm heightens the sensation, others say if you starve your brain of oxygen, it forces oxygen-giving blood to flow toward it and away from your genitals. Continuing to breathe deeply through orgasm is recommended by spiritual sex devotees who claim it means you're more likely to be able to have a second one. Yet more experts say if you want to feel your orgasm over a wider area, start with regular deep breaths and then start panting just before orgasm.
Who's right? It's about what works for you, so give them all a try!
Pay attention to what your body does just before orgasm
Knowing your orgasm triggers is incredibly helpful because the more your brain travels a certain path neurologically, the easier it becomes. The more signposts of impending orgasm your brain can recognise, the more likely it will be to trigger the orgasmic response.
Focus on what you naturally do on approach to orgasm, then exaggerate it. If you go quiet and hold your breath, try doing that the next time you're about to climax. (Though possibly not for terribly long!)
If you notice you tense your toes, do that. Get to the point where your brain thinks 'Aha! She's holding her breath and toe flexing which means she's about to orgasm. Better get cracking then and make it happen!'
And make noise. It sounds and feels sexy.
Give up on worrying about wobbly bits
If your partner isn't someone you can let go with, without fear of criticism, they're not the right choice. In - or out - of the bedroom.
Slow his orgasm down, fast-track yours
Yes, it is bloody annoying that he can orgasm with one hand behind his back (literally) but he's jealous of your ability to hover in the oh-Jesus-I'm-just-about-there stage for ages.
You envy his speed, he envies that you get to pause and enjoy the journey.
Anything that helps him to hover increases his enjoyment, anything that speeds you up does the same for you. Show each other exactly what works to achieve this. 'Hmmm, that feels fantastic when you do it really slow' or 'God, that's great. Do it harder'.
Stop worrying if he'll find your requests weird. A finger inserted up your bottom at just the right moment, for instance, works wonders to tip women over the edge. Lots don't ask for it simply because they're concerned their boyfriend might find it weird or 'unladylike'.
Quite frankly, the majority of men would love to think you're secretly 'slutty'. Open your mouth and speak up.
Masturbate with him rather than alone
If you don't have an orgasm during intercourse, give yourself one afterward. He can watch or place his hand over yours.
Masturbate more often as well. Researchers claim it increases your sexual appetite because the more sex we have, the more our bodies expect.
Don't leave your vibrator in the bedside drawer, get into the habit of bringing it out if you're hovering in the 'almost there' zone but can't tip over.
Choose a discreetly sized, non-realistic style (like the Supersex Clitoral Vibe - which looks like a tulip!) and his penis isn't going to resent it too much.
Fantasise if it helps get you there
Many women and men use fantasy to launch themselves into orgasmic orbit - some can't achieve one without it.
Quit the guilt trip - your partner can't read minds, remember?