• Question:

    I'm becoming more concerned about an issue I have that seems to have worsened over the past two years. In short, I'm completely out of practice when it comes to initiating sex. I've been with my partner for 6 years and although sex has always been infrequent it was never an issue. I have no problem trying my luck after a night out but my girlfriend refuses because she says sex when she’s slightly tipsy makes her feel dirty. Unfortunately, when sober, we go to bed reading books.

    I know the answer is to express myself and explain I’m not happy but how do you start that kind of conversation? I still love her and still find her extremely attractive but right now I feel wrong and dirty for wanting to touch and kiss her.

    Question:

    I've been with a guy on and off for the past few years. I've seen other people in between but keep ending up back with my ex. I'm sick of the on again, off again routine but love, love, LOVE the sex! He knows me and what I like and I know all his spots too, and we always find new ways to spice things up. What do you think I should do? Stay or leave for good?

    Question:

    I'm 42 and very happily married with three kids. My husband and I have a good sex life but lately I’ve been very attracted to a younger friend of mine. He's 24. We go to bars and clubs together and we flirt quite a lot. I know he finds me attractive as he isn't shy about telling me. I tend to make more of an effort with my makeup and how I dress when I'm around him.

    On more than one occasion I've been tempted to give in to my desires, but the thought of losing my husband and kids stops me. How can I go about exploring my desires so nobody gets hurt?

    Question:

    I’ve been with my girl for five years and at the beginning I’d come within a minute of entering her. I bought a book on the ‘stop-start’ method and now I can last ages (half an hour or more) but only if I use this technique. The trouble is, all the stopping and starting puts her off and she finds it hard to climax because of it. Is there anything else we can do or try?

    Question:

    My husband and I are both in our early fifties and our children have now grown up and fled the nest. We still love each other very much but somewhere along the line we stopped having sex. I liked to think we’d outgrown that kind of thing, but now, out of the blue, my husband has started making sexual advances again. I’ve been trying to laugh it off but frankly I find the whole idea of sex at our age embarrassing and a little disgusting. I just can’t go through with it.

    Question:

    I am writing to you because I’m hoping you might be able to tell me what I found hidden in the back of my husband’s bedside drawer. I thought it was a big torch but when I took the lid off, I got quite a shock because inside it looks like a woman’s lady bits. I don’t understand what it is or why he would need this when he has a wife?

    Question:

    I met a fantastic looking man at a party and went out with him last weekend. Before the date, I was both excited and nervous about how the night would go. It went really well but he was so keen and so nice, I’ve now lost interest. I don’t really understand why but it’s happened to me before. Why is the whole ‘too keen’ thing such a turn off for me?

    Question:

    Does watching porn cause premature ejaculation? I’ve heard that’s what causes it. I’ve also heard it’s because guys masturbate really quickly when they’re growing up because they’re scared of being caught.

    Question:

    I’ve been married for 29 years and am 49 with three children all grown up. During my periods my husband still demands sex. They only last two to three days but are extremely heavy due to me being pre-menopausal. This causes friction between us as he has a high sex drive. I don’t feel great during this time and just want to rest my body. He tells me I am selfish. He thinks that other sexual duties should happen which I agree with however I feel drained by my situation.  We have an excellent sex life other wise.

    Question:

    I’ve been with my husband more than a decade and while I am still very much in love with him, I don’t fancy him like I used to. I’m rarely in the mood and avoid sex whenever I can. When we do have sex, I feel like I’m pretending to enjoy it, though I sometimes do once we get going. We have kids but they’re older now and I can’t use that as an excuse anymore. I wish I could feel like I did at the beginning again.

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