• Question:

    I met a fantastic looking man at a party and went out with him last weekend. Before the date, I was both excited and nervous about how the night would go. It went really well but he was so keen and so nice, I’ve now lost interest. I don’t really understand why but it’s happened to me before. Why is the whole ‘too keen’ thing such a turn off for me?

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    Does watching porn cause premature ejaculation? I’ve heard that’s what causes it. I’ve also heard it’s because guys masturbate really quickly when they’re growing up because they’re scared of being caught.

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    I’ve been married for 29 years and am 49 with three children all grown up. During my periods my husband still demands sex. They only last two to three days but are extremely heavy due to me being pre-menopausal. This causes friction between us as he has a high sex drive. I don’t feel great during this time and just want to rest my body. He tells me I am selfish. He thinks that other sexual duties should happen which I agree with however I feel drained by my situation.  We have an excellent sex life other wise.

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    I’ve been with my husband more than a decade and while I am still very much in love with him, I don’t fancy him like I used to. I’m rarely in the mood and avoid sex whenever I can. When we do have sex, I feel like I’m pretending to enjoy it, though I sometimes do once we get going. We have kids but they’re older now and I can’t use that as an excuse anymore. I wish I could feel like I did at the beginning again.

    Question:

    My husband has changed over the years from a happy, genuinely kind man into someone I don’t recognise. He constantly puts me down and rarely gives me compliments, yet still expects sex. My reaction is to think ‘Why should I have sex with him? What’s he done that’s nice for me?’. The end result is that we have stopped having sex and the tension has got even worse. I don’t know what to do to fix either our sex life or our relationship.

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    I'm seeing someone that I'm really attracted to, the sex is really great (best I have had) but there's something holding me back. I'm not a very sexually confident person. I'm good at the ‘old fashioned’ things like hand jobs and I’m good at going down on him - great, actually!  But when I get on top, I get all self-conscious. I worry I look weird from that angle and while I’m having sex. Also, I don't think I'm very good at being in top generally. How can I become better at all this and really make him think that this is the best sex he's ever had?

    Question:

    My husband keeps going to strip clubs behind my back. When I confronted him - well, I caught him - he said he wouldn’t change. I try everything to please him at home. What do you think I should do? Just put up with it?

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    Question:

    I have been seeing a bloke for a couple of months now and from the second date he has been quite pushy for sex. I slept with him on date four, as it felt right to. He was very good at oral sex and said he was enjoying it, we tried quite a few positions and both had a good time (even though I didn't orgasm!).

    As he was about to come, he withdrew and asked if he could ejaculate on my face. I said yes and he jumped up on the bed, took the condom off, stood over me and did it. His manner slightly surprised me, no one has ever done that to me before. He said he found it fun! I have had mixed response from friends, some say its degrading, others think it’s fine.

    I am not too bothered, just didn’t see it coming! I wonder why he didn’t want to come inside me and whether he just views me as a sex object. (I was wearing a corset and stockings etc). What is your perspective on this?

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    I’m told that the feeling of a woman swallowing while performing oral on a man is fantastic but my long term girl friend doesn’t like the whole concept. Is there anything you can suggest to encourage her?

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