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    My new man has told me that he gets off on the idea of me masturbating in front of him. I have never done anything like this before in front of previous partners and am happy to go with the flow but find it initially a bit embarrassing and hard to lose my inhibitions. Have you got any tips for making it more sexually pleasing for us both?

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    I have started seeing an older man - I’m 23 and he is 37 and I would like to know the best way to keep him happy in bed.

    He loves me giving him oral sex and I quite enjoy doing it but I get bored easily after what feels like about four or five minutes. I then stop and kiss him and he finds this annoying. How can I make it so I don’t get bored so easily?

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    My wife is conservative when it comes to sex. I have introduced her to a rabbit vibrator and although it seems that she enjoys it, she now complains that it gives her the "itches". This is despite me ensuring it’s kept clean and in a hygienic state. Could it be that the material it’s made of that’s responsible for the itching?

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    I don’t feel any sensation during sex. I recently had a one night stand with this cute guy after nearly five years of sexual abstinence and I did not enjoy or feel anything. Prior to the abstinence, I had just lost my virginity and did not have a sex life.

    I must have had sex about five times which felt numb and sensationless.  When will I start to enjoy sex? Will a pelvic toner help? I'm approaching my late twenties and I'd like to start enjoying sex sooner than later.

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    About three years ago I met a man (we're both in our 40s and divorced). We became friends and after a few months had a fling. Although I wanted a relationship, he didn't and told me he just wanted my friendship. This was obviously very hard for me so I decided to distance myself from him for a time. However, over the past six months we've become friends again and spend time together every month or so - always very relaxed, lots of laughs and no discussion about where our friendship might lead, and no physical contact.

    In emails and texts he has always signed himself off with his initial "J" and never his full name. But over the last couple of months he has started to occasionally sign himself off as "Jon" - he never does this when we're in contact about arrangements on where to meet etc (it's always "J" in these messages), but he will sometimes sign off as "Jon" when we're talking about something more personal or when he's thanked me for something.

    Also, despite the fact that he still leads me to understand that he just wants us to remain friends, when we said goodbye last week I lifted up my face to get the usual peck on the cheek and he kissed me on the lips. It wasn't particularly sexual, but a sweet little kiss on the mouth.  And no, it wasn't a mistake on his part, he didn't miss my cheek! Although I have not received any indication from him that he wants more than friendship from me, these two little things have made me wonder. Is he just more relaxed with me as we've known each other for so long?  Or could he now want more than just friendship? What do you think?

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    My girlfriend has recently invested in what I can only describe as a monster-size vibrator. Since the purchase she has gone off vaginal sex with me and seems to prefer to just give me oral sex while I use the sex toy to penetrate her. Is this a case of bigger is better and I just have to accept that?

    Question:

    Can you use ‘Fisherman’s Friends’ when you go down on a girl? Is it harmful?

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    I regularly fantasise and masturbate over my friend’s mum. Every time I see her or go near her I can feel myself starting to go hard. I want things to happen but I'm not sure if they should. What should I do?

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    I am currently in a hell of a predicament. I am 55 and my wife who is 49 has fallen in love with her best friend who is a lesbian. She insists that she still loves me and wants to stay with me and our three children but she also wants to see her friend because she is bisexual. Because I love my wife so much I am prepared to continue with our 'arrangement' where she sees her friend twice a week.

    I am also friendly with her friend and had it been anyone else or a man it would definitely be over between us after 20 years. Over the last two years various problems have affected our relationship although our sex life has remained good. I feel that in the long term this may have saved our marriage but I'm finding it very difficult to deal with the situation day to day.

    All the usual fears creep in, jealousy and betrayal being the main ones. As my wife is adamant she still loves me and me her I think we have a better than average chance of success. One of the things I don't really understand is that she has taken very easily to giving oral sex to her friend but has very rarely done that with me apart from early on.

    She loves it when I give her oral by the way which I love to do. Does her reluctance to even attempt any oral towards me point towards her possibly being a lesbian eventually which is my biggest fear? Can you advise on anything which might encourage her in that way because, understandably I think, this has now become an issue which it wasn't really before. Are there any websites you know of where I could contact any people who have successfully stayed with a bisexual wife to give me hope for our future together?

    Question:

    I have a sexual fetish. Big breasts are a turn on for me and it's what gets me very aroused. I’ve been dating a girl and we’re getting very close. She is beautiful on the outside and a great girl on the inside, but she has very small breasts.

    The sex is okay but I’m not as aroused as I get if I was having sex with a busty girl. What should I do? Should I tell her to get a boob job? How can I approach that without hurting her feelings? I don’t want this sexual fetish of mine to ruin a good relationship.

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