• Question:

    I’ve been reading a bit about muscle gels that tighten the vagina temporarily during sex. I’ve had two children and I don’t think I feel different but maybe it’s just been so long since I had sex, I’ve forgotten!

    Can you tell me if these work and if they’re safe? I’ve asked my husband if I feel too loose and he says no but I don’t think he’d say ‘yes’ for fear of hurting my feelings!

    Question:

    My partner and I had triplet boys 6 months ago and, as you can guess, have been too busy for much sex since! My partner is now demanding sex while I feel too tired and a little freaked out.

    A little voice in my head puts me off given that our planned two children has now become five! I intend to have a vasectomy within the next year, but don't think it’s good to rush into it just to get my libido back.

    My wife is naturally more body conscious than usual at the moment and I don't want to keep saying no for fear of hurting her. But I do feel kind of stuck!

    Watch and learn: masturbation techniques for him to use on her

    The only, absolutely guaranteed way to find out how your partner likes to be brought to orgasm manually is to watch them do it themselves.

    Watching your partner masturbate isn't just sexy, it's the most informative sex lesson you'll get. Too embarrassed to demonstrate? Close your eyes as you're doing it. I don't care if you're dying behind those eyelids, the benefits of doing this far outweigh the angst, so stop being a wimp and get on with it.

    When she's doing it, pay special attention to...

    Question:

    I have just moved in with my partner and he’s avoided sex and any type of affection with me ever since! Pre moving in, he was great - very affectionate and sexual.

    I’ve confronted him about this and all he does is roll his eyes and tell me it’s been a huge two weeks what with shifting and him not feeling well. He then changes the conversation and the topic is lost. What’s going on?

    Question:

    I'm 21 and have been with my boyfriend for three years. But while I still love him deeply, I've gone from enjoying sex to dreading it. He doesn't pressure me but when we have it, I don't enjoy it.

    Why am I feeling like this? We're both confused. Should I end it?

    Question:

    I've just come out of a nine year relationship and looking forward to having sex again. Sexual health is obviously a concern with new partners and STIs scare the hell out of me. How can I give a guy oral sex safely?

    Condoms must take away the excitement and pleasure and even if used, how can you use your mouth on the testicles safely? If I want to receive oral sex surely it's a bit of a double standard to ask a man to put a condom before I go down on him but I get to enjoy oral sex in its natural state?

    Question:

    I have been having an affair with my first love for over 18 months. We are both married and neither of us have had lots of partners so it's not typical behaviour for us.

    We met again after 20 years and boom head over heels - well, lust mainly - but it feels like love at times. We clearly have a deep bond and in spite of attempts to stop seeing each other we don't seem to be able to.

    We're in constant touch, ranging from everyday chatter to text sex, meeting when we can. We've become very supportive of each other which also feels comforting. That said I have a fabulous husband and a lovely sex life with him. So - what is this do you think? A sex addiction?

    Question:

    My boyfriend is suddenly having erection problems and I don't know what to do. It started when he had drunk too much one night and he totally freaked out when his penis didn't work.

    That was two months ago and he's been unable to get hard since

    Question:

    I have absolutely no confidence when it comes to being on top during intercourse. I'm completely clueless! I start to get into it, then I think about what I'm doing and then get embarrassed and stop.

    My boyfriend says it doesn't matter to him, but it matters to me. Please can you give me some advice?

    Question:

    I have never had an orgasm - not on my own or with any guys - or even with a vibrator. Just when I think I'm close, it feels like I'm going to pee so I stop. What's wrong with me?

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