• Question:

    I have been having an affair with my first love for over 18 months. We are both married and neither of us have had lots of partners so it's not typical behaviour for us.

    We met again after 20 years and boom head over heels - well, lust mainly - but it feels like love at times. We clearly have a deep bond and in spite of attempts to stop seeing each other we don't seem to be able to.

    We're in constant touch, ranging from everyday chatter to text sex, meeting when we can. We've become very supportive of each other which also feels comforting. That said I have a fabulous husband and a lovely sex life with him. So - what is this do you think? A sex addiction?


    My boyfriend is suddenly having erection problems and I don't know what to do. It started when he had drunk too much one night and he totally freaked out when his penis didn't work.

    That was two months ago and he's been unable to get hard since


    I have absolutely no confidence when it comes to being on top during intercourse. I'm completely clueless! I start to get into it, then I think about what I'm doing and then get embarrassed and stop.

    My boyfriend says it doesn't matter to him, but it matters to me. Please can you give me some advice?


    I have never had an orgasm - not on my own or with any guys - or even with a vibrator. Just when I think I'm close, it feels like I'm going to pee so I stop. What's wrong with me?


    When my girlfriend gives me oral sex, I ejaculate as normal. But, even after a few hours rest, I'm unable to have a second orgasm. My girlfriend is taking this really badly, petrified that she isn't satisfying me.

    I love what she does and tell her constantly but she seems to think it's her fault when I don't come the second time around. She's even saying it's making her not want to have sex with me. How can I reassure her and why is this happening?


    I'm very much an amateur when it comes to sex because I've had to overcome a lot of childhood conditioning that left me with an extremely negative attitude towards sex and low desire. I am now at the point where I'm enjoying sex but I haven't yet had an orgasm.

    I feel this is normal and at this point I should be simply enjoying what I'm feeling and learning to relax completely and let go. My boyfriend, however, is getting completely paranoid over the fact he can't make me come.

    I'm starting to feel like orgasms are the sole aim of sex! It's all everyone ever seems to talk about! Are they really so important?

    Watch and learn: masturbation techniques for her to use on him

    The only, absolutely guaranteed way to find out how your partner likes to be brought to orgasm manually is to watch them do it themselves.

    Watching your partner masturbate isn't just sexy, it's the most informative sex lesson you'll get. Too embarrassed to demonstrate? Close your eyes as you're doing it. I don't care if you're dying behind those eyelids, the benefits of doing this far outweigh the angst, so stop being a wimp and get on with it.

    When he's doing it, pay special attention to...


    I've had strong feelings towards a female friend of mine for about six months. We get on well but every time I try to tell her how I feel, I get the shakes and end up changing the subject. I'm so scared that I will lose her to somebody else but don't want to be possessive in a friendship or relationship.


    I am having major penis problems. Every time my wife and I have sex it's all over too quickly or else the opposite happens and I can't seem to come at all. What's going on here?

    Sticky fingers: touching techniques which work on every woman

    Let your fingers do the talking: discover a few simple touching techniques that are guaranteed to make her purr with pleasure...

    More entries