• Question:

    Ever since the birth of our baby two years ago, my husband has gone off sex. We've been together for years and had an amazing sex life before this.

    In the beginning, I thought he was avoiding sex because he thought I wasn't interested but now it's clear all he wants to do is cuddle.

    I instigate it regularly and suggest doing new things but no joy. He's loving but the lust is gone. What's going on?


    I like sex but I get distracted during it because I worry my partner's grossed out by my body. I'm not thin and during sex, I can see my tummy and thighs jiggling up and down.


    My partner always wants to try new things when it comes to sex. Sometimes I'm as eager as he is. But other times I don't want to do what he suggests and he hassles me until I eventually give in.

    The thing is, the minute we've tried something, he goes off the idea and wants something new. I don't know if I disappoint him or if he is just always looking to push boundaries, but I am worried that one day he will go too far and I won't be able to give him what he wants.

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    I'm 18 and have never had an orgasm. I'm worried I'll never have one. What should I do?


    My girlfriend and I are happy but we're worried we don't have enough sex. We get the impression everyone else is having a lot more sex than we are and it worries us.


    I cannot orgasm during sex, the only way I can orgasm is if my husband performs oral sex on me. To be quite honest he doesn't enjoy doing it as much anymore because I am not satisfied after intercourse.

    Love Advice: Valentine's Day Date Survival Guide

    One message I really want to get across is to dispel the myth we have about love, that there's only one person out there who can make us happy. The search for 'The One'.

    It's a silly concept because there are lots of people out there who can make you happy. These days, people have more than one serious relationship.

    So if you're feeling really down this Valentine's Day because it didn't work out with someone who you feel was the love of your life, calm down. You will love again. Just as much as you did before.

    Just because it didn't work out with this person doesn't mean you're going to be alone forever. There are lots of people out there who can make you happy, not just one.


    Do penis rings work? Will they keep me hard after I orgasm so I can carry on pleasuring my girl?

    Ask Tracey

    Valentine's Day does worry me. I think there's tremendous pressure on people to a) be in a relationship and b) be in a terrific relationship. And Valentine's Day leaves lots of people feeling inadequate.

    Single people feel ostracized and like there's something wrong with them and people in long term relationships who are perhaps a bit bored, start worrying their relationship isn't good enough or their partner's not romantic enough. It's meant to be a day to celebrate love but it's turned into a day where lots people feel upset.

    So follow these tips and think of it as a day to celebrate all sorts of love and you'll be fine.

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