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    first time fisting

    Whether you're finally indulging a lifelong fantasy, ticking off a 2016 resolution before the New Year's Day deadline, or yielding to an idle whim, fisting can be an exhilarating adventure - if you follow strict guidelines. Yes I said strict; fisting is no one's idea of a beginner activity.

    anal sex first time

    While growing in popularity, within relationships anal sex can still be a divisive and delicate subject to broach.

    Generally speaking, most men are keen to give it a go while most women are more cautious. Interestingly, gay men also approach their first time with trepidation and the same guy who assured you it wouldn't hurt one bit suddenly loses enthusiasm if you suggest pegging (putting on a strap-on dildo and penetrating him)!

    Improve your sex life

    There’s one simple thing you can do to make sure you and your partner are sexually satisfied for life - and you’d be surprised at how few couples actually do it.

    How to turn a bad kisser into a brilliant one

    Warning: you’re actually not going to like the answer to this dilemma because the solution isn’t sneaky (well, maybe a tiny bit) and it involves directly confronting the problem - something most people hate doing.

    Well, brace yourself! Being able to talk honestly and openly about sex is essential if you want anything near a decent relationship, so you might as well bite the bullet and do it now! (This exercise, by the way, works for kissing but also works for perfecting any technique.)

    Here’s how!

    Should you stay in a sexless relationship?

    Some low-libido couples happily decide to take sex off the table but the majority of us value regular sex and the intimacy that comes with it.

    If you’re not having sex and the problem isn’t looking like it’s going to be fixed any time soon, decisions need to be made.

    Supersize your sex drive

    Lots of things affect our libido. Everything from our diet, lifestyle and self-esteem to landing the wrong genes or choosing the wrong partner.

    Happily though, sluggish sex drives can be ramped up to raunchy, simply by observing a few simple rules.

    The 5 questions most men have about sex

    Does penis size matter? 

    Statistics vary wildly but the average length of an erect penis is around 5.1 inches, the average girth when erect is 4.8 inches and the average length when flaccid (not erect) is 3.5 inches.

    9 things you should never say in bed

    I’ve always said mouths are great for lots of things in bed, but the most important of them all is talking.

    Second most important: knowing when to zip your lips.

    There are some sex sentences that should never, ever be said - especially not in the heat of the moment. Like…

    Should you confess if you've had an affair

    Some people are opportunistic cheaters and jump at a bit on the side whenever it's on offer, even if they're blissfully, happily married.

    But most - women particularly - are lured into infidelity during difficult times and end the affair when the marriage becomes stable and satisfying again.

    You’re then faced with a moral dilemma: if you've had an affair but it's now over, is it better to come clean or say nothing?

    People assume honestly is the best policy but in this scenario but it's not necessarily true. It depends very much on the circumstances.

    5 mistakes even experienced lovers make

    So you think you’re pretty good at giving oral sex?

    Haven’t had any complaints but have had lots of women begging for more?

    Most experienced lovers know the basics (make sure she’s wet, don’t be too rough). But don’t be too sure you’re at masterclass level until you check you’re not guilty of any of the following…

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