• Question:

    I used to love sex but for some reason over the last couple of years I have lost all interest and our sex life has got very predictable and boring. I’m lacking confidence in my body and we both work shift work so I’m always tired. I don't want this to ruin our relationship. Do you have any suggestions on what I can do to spice things up or get my libido back?


    If I want to orgasm during sex, I always have to fantasise. Sometimes I think about my partner, but more often it's someone else – a stranger, an ex or even someone we both know. I wonder if my partner and I experimented more I wouldn’t need to do this. How can I broach my fantasies with him?


    I never orgasm from it and I don’t particularly like doing it to my partner either. My jaw gets sore and I can't do it for long. How can I enjoy it more?


    My boyfriend likes intercourse to last for ages but I’m happy with it lasting around 10 - 15 minutes. How can I get him to see that’s enough without offending?

    EDGE Tracey Cox

    'She hates giving me oral sex! How do I get her to like it?'

    This is one of the most common questions I get from men, so this one’s for you! Oral sex is one of the most pleasurable aspects of sex and to be denied it (and still expect you to continue to give it to her) is unthinkably unfair.

    There are three main reasons why women don’t like giving men oral sex. Happily each has a very simple solution...

    Reason no. 1: He Smells

    Most women are paranoid about the smell of their genitals and quite frankly more men should be!

    If she’s not keen on giving you oral sex, the first thing to check is how fresh your genitals smell. This means taking a shower before you have sex, or at the very least giving your penis a good wipe over with warm, soapy water, then rinsing with clean water.