Having her strip for him is one of the most popular male sexual fantasies - but lots of women baulk at fulfilling it.
Why? They’re worried they’re going to look like an idiot.
Fear not! This simple, step-by-step guide will have you looking like a pro (in all the right senses!)
10 Golden Rules
Absolutely Totally Cannot Be Broken Rule No 1: You’re allowed to touch him but he’s not allowed to touch you. Not with his hands, mouth, tongue or penis. Only his eyes and imagination are allowed to roam.
Absolutely Totally Cannot Be Broken Rule No 2: You must maintain eye contact with him throughout the performance.
Penis rings are a popular boy toy for good reason: they make the penis look bigger, keep erections harder and make him last longer. If you choose one with a vibrator attached, they also up her chances or climaxing during intercourse. What’s not to love?
The rings are worn at the base of the penis, often with a second ring behind the scrotum, and usually put on when your penis is semi rather than fully erect.
If you’re particularly hairy, you might want to have a bit of a trim to avoid hairs getting caught, but otherwise a bit of lube is all you need to try one.
Here’s how to pick the perfect penis ring for you.
I want to last longer during intercourse or stay hard for longer
Use a stretchy silicone ring such as one from the EDGE Supreme Endurance Set. Compared to other rings, these stretch the most and constrict blood flow most effectively.
Couples with the healthiest sex lives have all kinds of different sex: lusty sex, playful sex, make-up sex and loving sex.
These five sex positions work well when you're feeling particularly loved- up - but also like a leg-over.
Love and lust, romance and raunch: the perfect mix for great sex!
My final blog in the anal sex series talks specifically about any problems or issues you might have with anal play. I’d strongly suggest you also re-read the other three blogs (Part 1: Anatomy, Prep and Protection, Part 2: Fingering and Rimming or Anal Sex Prep Guide: Part 3: Positions and Techniques) for further clues as to what else might be causing problems.
My partner won’t even consider anal play because they think it’s kinky!
It’s not got the best reputation, anal play or anal sex. Guys think it means they’re gay if they enjoy it, plenty of people think it’s unhygienic and very few admit to liking it, even after a few down the pub.
But a little anal play has transformed many a stale sex life simply because it feels entirely different to anything else you’ve experienced sexually. For that reason alone - the intense novelty of it - it’s well worth exploring in some form.
Giving great oral is part attitude, part technique and a whole lot about enthusiasm. These are my top 10 tips for a magical combination of all three.
1. It's a treat not a chore. Act like giving him a BJ is a huge favour and something you're dreading doing, and no matter how skilful your tongue techniques, it's not going to work.
2. It's what you do before the BJ that counts. The more foreplay and teasing he's had, the more sensitive he'll be. Just as you hate him diving straight for the clitoris, he hates you pouncing immediately on his penis. Kiss and stroke everywhere, glide up the inside of his thighs, pay attention to the area of his tummy his erect penis sits on, and bite his neck and his lips.
3. Pick your position. Being able to watch is all part of the male fixation on fellatio: men are erotic visualists. Kneel in front of him and hold eye contact during oral. The worst position of all is the one most women go for: lying beside him on the bed. He can't see anything, it's awkward and you can't use both hands.
This is the third in my anal sex series, so if you haven’t read the previous two blogs, I’d strongly recommend reading both Part 1: Anatomy, Prep and Protection, and Part 2: Fingering and Rimming beforehand to make sure you’re fully prepared.
Anal penetration isn’t one of those ‘I know, let’s try this today!’ type of sex acts! It’s something you need to have really thought about and ‘trained’ for. So don’t attempt this until you’ve done your homework.
This guide can be used to penetrate with both a real penis or the strap-on variety.
The 6 Secrets to Successful Anal Intercourse
- Be safe. Use lots of good-quality anal lube, use good-quality condoms or both get tested for STIs.
- Don't double dip. Never go straight from anal intercourse to vaginal intercourse without washing thoroughly first. It transfers all sorts of things into the wrong places.
It sticks to itself, won’t rip off hair or skin, is simple to use, comfy to wear and a hell of a lot less intimidating than metal handcuffs or rope. Best of all - it’s not only cheap, you can re-use it!
That's why we love bondage tape - for its brilliant versatility!
Try a Tie-up and Tease Game
You don’t need any knot-tying skills to use bondage tape so you can tie your partner up quickly and easily - just make sure you don’t wrap it too tightly. The aim is to tie them up comfortably, not cut off their circulation.
To tie wrists together:
- Decide if you want their hands tied in front of them, behind their back or held high above their head.
- Wrap the tape around one wrist first, going completely around it, then wrap both wrists together. The insides of the wrists should face each other.
Kegel exercises aren’t just a brilliant way to keep your pelvic floor muscles in peak condition, nothing works better to repair and strengthen the vagina and pelvic floor during pregnancy and after the trauma of birth. Kegels are easy, effective and guaranteed to reduce the negative effects of childbirth.
When to do kegels
Ideally, you’d start doing pelvic floor exercises immediately after you find out you’re pregnant (if you aren’t already doing them for general pelvic health) and continue after the birth for at least a few years.
Do them regularly and properly and they could mean reduced pushing time during labour - the stronger your muscles are, the better able you are to help speed the birth.
Both pregnancy and childbirth can stretch and weaken the pelvic floor causing urinary incontinence (peeing when you don’t want to) or uterine prolapse, neither of which are on anyone’s ‘Yes please!’ list.
Hearts and flowers have their place in relationships, but sometimes nothing compares to that animalistic, spur-of-the-moment satisfaction that comes from an off-the-hoof encounter. Spontaneous playtimes can make for some of the most exciting and passionate sessions, as you neatly sidestep your 'standard' sexual routine by beginning fully clothed or improvising positions in a new room.
What do you do when you’re both desperate to rip each other’s gear off and get down to it? Skip the foreplay (just this once) and get yourself into one of these hot sex positions.
Part one in this series talked about how to prepare for anal sex. This blog takes a look at techniques for inserting fingers or tongues (rimming). For simplicity's sake, I've written this from the perspective of the person who's doing it to someone else. I talked about the importance of using a good-quality lube in Part 1, so do make sure you have some handy!
USING YOUR FINGERS
This is often most people's first experience of anal play and it's a useful place to start because you can feel what you're doing.
Some basics before you go there: clean hands and trimmed nails are a must. Remove all rings. Also consider wearing some gloves (latex or non-latex). It not only protects both of you from STIs but some people quite enjoy indulging the 'naughty doctor or gynaecologist' fantasy!