Sex Advice: Why using a lube makes everything - including your sex toys - feel better
Under ideal circumstances our bodies produce enough natural lubrication not to warrant adding any extra. But a little help is always welcome...
Under ideal circumstances our bodies produce enough natural lubrication not to warrant adding any extra.
Ideal meaning you're healthy, not stressed, it's the right time of the month, you haven't got a hangover, drunk too much, taken any anti-histamine medication to dry up that runny nose (which dries everything else up as well) and are feeling happy, relaxed and aroused. Which, let's face it, isn't all of the time.
Adding artificial moisture - in the form of a good quality personal lubricant - when Nature isn't doing her stuff, is a sensible way of making sure intercourse feels pleasurable for both of you. But it's not just useful during penetration.
If you're using your hands and fingers on yourself or your partner, lubrication means you can maintain a nice, even, steady rhythm because your hands glide more freely with added moisture.
Saliva is a great stand-by, but it doesn't have the staying power of a good lubricant and doesn't work as effectively.
Use it on your favourite sex toy or on yourself before using it. Slip to the loo before having sex, apply a dollop to your finger and insert it high into the vagina, then continue as normal to let it draw down to lubricate the inner and outer lips during foreplay.
Keep a tube or bottle near the bed to squeeze on the appropriate parts - hands, fingers, vagina, penis - when necessary.