"My partner has been losing his erection during intercourse. What can we do?"
I've been with my partner a year and sex is amazing but just recently he's been losing his erection during intercourse. When he does maintain one, he ejaculates quickly leaving me frustrated.
We have discussed the problem but can't work out why it's happening and it's putting strain on an otherwise wonderful relationship.
Men lose erections for all sorts of reasons: stress, tiredness, a side effect of medication (particularly anti-depressants), the result of too much to drink or an unhealthy lifestyle - all could be responsible, so look for physical reasons first.
If that's not turning up answers, try to trace back when it first happened. It might simply be that he lost his erection during a sex session a while ago, for a totally plausible reason (too much to drink for instance) and it freaked him out a little.
The next time you made love, he secretly panicked it might happen again - and, of course, it did. Penises are terribly sensitive and respond to fears and insecurities almost as much as an enticing hand, mouth or vagina.
I suspect he ejaculates quickly once he does manage to maintain an erection because he's terrified it will go away at any moment, so tries to rush to the finish line to convince both of you all is OK. Take the pressure off for a while. You don't need an erect penis to have a great time in bed!
Get him to use his hands, mouth and maybe a vibrator to keep you satisfied. You do the same to pleasure him. If he loses his erection at any moment during the session, just ignore it.
Continue stimulating him with your hands or mouth to see if that brings him back to life but if it doesn't, don't panic. Just switch to him pleasuring you or get him to masturbate himself. Erection problems often fix themselves once the couple stop staring at it.