• "I've started ejaculating prematurely - is there anything I can do to last longer?"


    Recently I have developed a problem of premature ejaculation. I used to be able to last for at least 20 minutes but lately, I'm lucky to last for five. I have been with my girlfriend for eight months but this problem has only started in the last few months.

    I went to my GP regarding this problem and he advised to contact you.


    The fact your GP suggested you talk with me suggests he doesn't think the problem is physical, so cast your mind back to when it first started.

    When was the first time you noticed it happening? What happened the time before that? Anything significant to prompt you hurrying the next time around?

    What was your girlfriend's reaction the first time you ejaculated too quickly? (And does she agree you're coming too quickly? The average length of intercourse is around five minutes, so you're completely normal.)

    What was your reaction? If it happened as a one off - you were just over-excited for some reason - and either of you over-reacted to it, you might now be nervous and that's why you're ejaculating too fast. Are you having sex less often?

    We all have sex more at the beginning and the more often you ejaculate, the longer you're able to last. If that's the case, try masturbating before having sex and see if that fixes the problem.

    In the meantime, practise holding off during masturbation. Bring yourself to the brink of orgasm then stop all stimulation. Wait until you regain control, then start stroking again.

    This will take practice but once you get the hang of it, you can apply it to sex with her. You don't have to consistently thrust, it's perfectly acceptable to stop now and then so you don't orgasm too soon.

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