• "My husband wants to watch an adult film with me. Should I go along with it?"


    I'm 25 years old and have been married for 9 years; my husband mentioned to me recently that he would like to watch an adult film with me.

    I feel like it's inviting someone else into our bedroom and that he just wants to see other females. Why would he want to look at one in the first place or what is his reason?

    Should I go along with this? I'm confused as to why he wants to do this as I thought that our sex was great!


    Relax. You're jumping to all sorts of conclusions and none of them are accurate.

    First up, after nine years, you can't blame your husband for wanting to explore no matter how good sex with you is! This isn't a criticism of the sex you have, more him making an effort to keep it good.

    Secondly, if he just wanted to look at other women, he'd watch porn on the net when you're not around. This is about spicing things up with you - he's suggesting this to make sex more exciting for both of you not just him.

    Also, you might be pleasantly surprised to find out there are lots of erotic films made by women, for women, that don't all feature big-breasted blondes.

    An adult film might not be as off-putting as you're imagining. Why don't you give it a whirl with an R-rated film? If you like it, you could try something very soft core (mild action) and take it from there.

    You don't have to sit and watch the whole thing, just have it playing in the background. Lovehoney have a good range of adult films and all are reasonably 'soft' (ie not too much for you to deal with).

    If you really object to it, say you've thought about his request but would rather not experiment. But do suggest something else you would be prepared to try, rather than just say no. He's simply looking for variety.

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