• "I don't feel satisfied with my sex life. What can we do to make sex last longer?"


    When my boyfriend and I have sex it always seems the same. We've tried a few positions but it lasts 10 minutes and then my boyfriend isn't interested any more.

    I feel unsatisfied. Is there anything we can do to make it last longer and feel more satisfying for me?


    Yes! Start by educating your boyfriend that most women don't orgasm purely by penetration, so him jumping on top for 10 minutes (or 10 hours for that matter, in most cases) isn't going to do it for you.

    Most women orgasm through him using his fingers or tongue on your clitoris. So shift the focus from concentrating on intercourse positions to foreplay and get him to give you an orgasm before having one himself.

    There's so much more to sex than just positions. You could try tying each other up, talking dirty, sharing fantasies, having sex in semi-public, using sex toys. The list is as long as your imagination.

    If you're struggling for ideas, invest in a few good general sex books. Hot Sex and supersex are good choices if you want to try something from my range.

    Heat up your sex life

    Comments (1)

    • Mark: December 16, 2008 09:26
      Most guys don't know how to please a woman. I have to admit that I was 24 & married before I even knew what a clitoris was!

      Most women in my experience feel too embarrassed to tell a man what they really like! My advice to all women is to tell your man what pleases & turns you on. Personally I find it very stimulating to see a woman orgasm. That look of pleasure on the face & uncontrollable bucking of the hips is soooo sensual & erotic!

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