• "My boyfriend watches internet porn all the time. How do I cope with this?"


    I found my boyfriend watching porn on the internet and have started checking the history on the computer. He's watching it all the time and it's starting to really get to me.

    I know all guys do it but I feel threatened. How do I cope with this?


    I get emails like this almost every day, so don't feel like you're the only one coping with it! You're right that lots of guys do it but that doesn't mean you have to pretend it's not happening.

    Confront him - but in a light-hearted way. Joke that his computer gets to see him more than you and that you know what he's doing on there.

    See if he 'fesses up - if he doesn't, you'll have to tell him you clicked on 'history' to find a website you'd been looking at and saw he'd been looking at porn websites.

    Tell him you feel threatened by it. Is it because you feel he wants you to look like the girls on screen or do what they do? Ask him if this is what he wants. I suspect he'll tell you it's not the case. Let yourself be reassured.

    Believe me, I don't know one guy who really wants one of those girls as a girlfriend, they just like looking at them and it's an easy, no-fuss way to masturbate quickly. Can you write it off as just something guys do, if it's not interfering with your sex life?

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    Comments (4)

    • rebecca cattell: March 19, 2009 22:48
      suprise him by joining him in watching it you never no it mite just make your sex life a hole lot better hehehehehe
    • sarah: May 27, 2009 19:53
      i know how you feel only my husband and me had only just come back from our honey moon and i had found out he was setting the alarm clock to get up ealier than normal to come down stairs to masterbate in front of porn sites but my case is different as i was naked beside him every night yet he wanted that more than he wanted to touch me that was what was said when confronted about it this did not stop here i wish i could say but has happened a few more times but the getting up earlier did stop personaly i could not cope with this and our marriage has had to end.
    • jessica: June 19, 2013 11:00
      i know how you feel there i am trying to figuer out the same thing
    • Russell: January 11, 2014 18:48
      I would to learn more from you!
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