"I have never had an orgasm and can't understand why. What should I do?"
I have never had an orgasm and can't understand why. We alternate positions and are often adventurous but also sometimes romantic.
It has got to a point where I don't enjoy having sex any more because I never get pleasure from it.
Only 30% of women orgasm purely through penetration, so you can try all the positions you like and it's still unlikely to happen!
The most effective way to have an orgasm is through oral sex or him using his fingers, very gently, to stimulate your clitoris. Tongues are even better, because they're soft and slippery.
Get him to use the flat of his tongue rather than the tip and swoosh it gently around and over the clitoris, keeping the motion consistent and for at least ten minutes.
You'll feel pressure build in the area, which will feel a little weird and overwhelming - a bit like you're going to pee yourself! Relax, you won't! That's just the blood pumping to the area to make it feel super sensitive.
When it gets to the point where the pressure is at its greatest, the blood releases back into the body and produces the delicious feeling we call an orgasm.