• "My boyfriend wants me to masturbate in front of him but I'm embarrassed. What should I do?"


    I masturbate but only in private. My new boyfriend wants me to do it in front of him but the thought of it makes me hot with embarrassment.

    To me, it's something you should do in private only. I'd be interested to know what you think about it.


    Ten to 15 years ago, women didn't even admit to masturbating, let alone put on live floor shows. Men, on the other hand, have always masturbated - a lot - and this is why he thinks it's no big deal to ask.

    You're not being prudish to feel a little embarrassed and don't let him pressure you, but I'd consider trying it for two good reasons.

    First up, we should always push ourselves a little sexually. (Stay in the comfort zone all the time and you won't grow.) The second reason is he'll have a front row seat to watch how you give yourself pleasure. All he has to do after that, is copy you!

    Rather than make a big deal out of it, the next time he's touching you, simply push his hand out of the way and take over stimulating yourself.

    Keep your eyes shut if you feel embarrassed, pretend you're on your own and let him watch the technique, pressure and speed you use. Believe me, the few seconds of cringing will be worth it if he pays attention.

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    Comments (3)

    • AquaBunny: May 13, 2009 18:31
      My partner asked me to do this, particularly as I wanted us to use my vibe together and he didn't really know what to do with it! I was a little embarrassed at first, but he found it a real turn on watching me, and now he has no excuse for not knowing what I like!
    • Lane: June 29, 2009 22:59
      My boyfriend and I have a long distance relationship we have recently started video chatting and "playing". We talk dirty and he masturbates while we chat. He asked me to but I don't really know how to make it look sexy. I want to I just don't really know what to do. Can anyone help?
    • LoveHoney - Carly: June 30, 2009 09:51
      Hi Lane,

      You may like to send your question to Tracey directly, using this form: www.lovehoney.co.uk/tracey-cox/ask-tracey/

      I'm sure she has some amazing answers to your question!

      Alternatively, why not join in with the LoveHoney forums - you'll receive lots of advice from like-minded people all over the world within minutes!


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