• Sex Advice: How to keep a relationship alive with spontaneous sex

    How to Keep a Relationship Alive with Spontaneous Sex

    Remember spontaneous sex? Impulsive, animalistic, passionate sex? Sex like it used to be in the beginning? Want to get all that back?

    Here's how...

    Apart from the odd particularly perky pair, very few long-term couples clock up regular and riveting flesh-feasts. Lots of people complain about not having enough sex and there are two main reasons why they're not: zero time and low desire.

    However, spontaneous sex works to rescue your love life because it restores the elements which tend to fade when love kicks off the stilettos and pushes its feet into slippers!

    Sex in public requires nerve and common sense. The problem with long-term love is that sex is too easy: its available 24/7. You're not supposed to have sex outside and this is exactly why it amplifies every touch, making it seem a dozen times sweeter than it would indoors.

    Learn from affair sex. The intensity in affairs is often caused by time limitations: enforce your own deadlines on sex sessions and you'll achieve a similar effect.

    Rediscover technology as the sexy stimulator it can be. Send texts and e-mails filled with lust and longing rather than the usual, mundane 'pick up a pint of milk on the way home from work' stuff.

    Photographic evidence isn't always possible when you're having spontaneous sex but doing naughty things in a photo booth is great fun and you have a permanent reminder of how well you play together.

    Send your love life to Sextasy

    Comments (3)

    • nick: May 27, 2009 12:58

      i love to take my wife from behind when she is bent over trying to put the clothes in the tumble dryer .or when she is kneeling on the floor putting stuff away.and i walk up to her with it hanging out and say to her can you empty this for me darling.it works for 90% of the time .it will depend if she is in the mood for my load at the time.(she gets it in the end though lol)
    • rachel: May 30, 2009 21:23
      Sex is a great thing and is built on passion and lust. If you can keep that alive then your doing the job! If you can't start complementing him/her tell them they look nice, smell nice, or you love them. You can also spice up your sex life with the thrill of danger. Have sex outdoors, In public places or just quickies in the bedding room will get your pulses racing!
    • dave: August 25, 2015 17:30
      at first our relationship was very active, lots of sex. even outside on the beach, but after lots of positive gestures and being romantic, and being spontenous no joy. have a friend who fancies me ? who finds me attractive ? used to watch porn to try and fill the void but not the same.
    Add a comment
    1. Yes, please! Email me when there are more comments after mine
    2. We need to ask you a question to prove you're a human because evil spam computers keep abusing our form!

    Ask Tracey Cox a sex or relationship question