• Sex Advice: How to have sex in public

    How To Have Sex In Public - Without Getting Caught!

    It's all about the situation: he's immune to seeing you naked pre-bedtime, but a flash of thigh by the roadside is unexpectedly voyeuristic. Learn how to have sex outside the confines of your home, without being arrested for indecent exposure!

    The secret to loving lustily in the long term is to surprise each other sexually. Take sex outside of the bedroom and passion is instantly renewed. But although sex on the car bonnet might seem raw and unromantic when you've a big, soft bed to roll around in contrast is key.

    Standing positions are better for high-risk outdoors sex as you can easily extricate yourselves from the situation and make a run for it! Stand with your back to him, bend over and grab your legs or the nearest available surface. With him slipping his trousers down just a tad and you lifting your skirt, he can penetrate you and stimulate that nerve-packed God-that-feels-good front vaginal wall.

    Sex in the midst's of nature is fun as you don't have to think about long term comfort. Fields, hedgerows, bushes and forests can be amazing locations but are not for the shy and retiring. If you're worried about being exposed, find a barn on a quiet farm and enjoy the shelter from the elements and prying eyes.

    Choose your time carefully. Waking your partner up in the middle of the night, the day before an important business meeting is not going to end well. Wait for the weekend and take short naps throughout the day to build up your energy for later. Remember - early mornings are great for urban escapades as the streets are deserted but farmers get up at the crack of dawn to start work so avoid fields and country lanes between 3 and 7am!

    Heat up your sex life

    Comments (99)

    • Mazz: June 06, 2009 20:32
      Do it in the car, its awesum!

      Find a nice quiet deserted place and away you go!

    • Sharon: June 12, 2009 09:26
      God, it's Awesome having sex outside.

      Forget the Car.

      Try driving out to the Country and doing it in the middle of a field or in a Forest that is thick and you can go off the track.
      Find a Barn.
      Try going out at Night to a field.
      There are SO MANY Places you can have Sex, you just have to use your imagination and take a drive around to suss out places where you can.
      Just make sure that you both do it somewhere where there is not much chance of seeing anyone else.

      Seek and You will Find.
      Go have Fun.

    • Mazz: June 17, 2009 02:56
      Why bother driving around?

      Do it in your back garden, on a hammock is brill!

      Or even try the garden shed...in the dark's so great.

      The thrill of the air hitting you on a warm summers' night and full in the knowledge others can hear but not see you is an experience just too great to miss.

    • Sharon: June 17, 2009 09:42
      I don't think the Garden Shed is such a great place especially if it's full of spider webs; and why in the dark?

      Get out in the Night Light sure.

      Doing it in the Rain somewhere secluded is fun and Thunder and Lightening just adds more electricity to the moment lol.

    • jo c jo: June 17, 2009 11:14
      my beds the best place for hot passionate sex!
    • Mazz: June 17, 2009 11:38
      I so prefer my new bhs sofas, soft and bouncy for a good hard shag :P
    • sharon: June 17, 2009 14:19
      I'm only interesting in being inside when it's an occasion for B & D or S & M.
    • Mazz: June 17, 2009 20:26
      @ Sharon

      How about a threesome or an orgy?

      Would you be outside for that too?

    • Sharon: June 17, 2009 21:27
      Sorry Mazz,

      I'm a Happy Newly Wed and I enjoy what I have with my husband.

      If you want to watch a really cool DVD go get "Short Bus", it's really rad.

    • Mazz: June 21, 2009 22:34
      Sorry Sharon, never heard of that one!
    • Sharon: June 23, 2009 09:27
      Mazz, if you Google DVD's you will find it.
      It has all that you were seeking, even an Orgy.

      I saw it in New Zealand at a Theatre on the Big Screen and I have had it out on DVD from Blockbusters Video Stores.

      All I can say is it was well worth the watch.

    • Mazz: June 23, 2009 12:18
      Thanks Sharon!!

      I'll keep an eye out for that, seems right up my street that one...so yea thanks!!

      You got any more tips??

    • Sharon: June 24, 2009 11:20
      Yes Mazz,

      Broaden your horizons and expand your imagination.
      That's what I did and still do.
      Possibilities are endless......
      Have fun and enjoy yourself but don't forget to make sure who ever your with enjoys their-selves too.

    • average jo: June 24, 2009 20:34
      Has any 1 tried cinema sex??
    • Mazz: June 24, 2009 21:03
      Yes I so have done it in the cinema at all times of the day! ;-)

      Its awesum...believe me you don't know what you're missing if you haven't yet tried it!

      Go have fun fun fun!

    • Sharon: June 25, 2009 08:56
      Cinemas are fine but not that exciting.
      Try a Pub full of people as you sit at a Table with a nice table cloth and giving a your partner a blow job.
      Now that's risky and fun. :)
    • Katie: July 18, 2009 22:21
      Public places are one of the best for having a good time, not too sure about pub though Sharon! Must be a bit on the smelly side!
    • Sharon: July 19, 2009 09:15
      No, it wasn't smelly.
      It was a Pub come Night Club in Auckland, New Zealand and it was St Patrick's Day.
      Our Pubs in the Cities are very clean; Country Pubs in New Zealand are dirty as the Farmers go to the Pub with their Gumboots on after a hard day on the Farm.
    • Mazz: August 06, 2009 19:14
      Any new ideas?
    • Katie: August 06, 2009 22:09
      Be adventurous Mazz! Try new stuff, the summer weather aka hot nights are the perfect setting for sex in public...wait until it rains and have sex in the rain, the feeling of the rain on your body on a hot summers night is amazing!
    • Sharon: August 07, 2009 09:12
      I agree with Katie, it's great in the Rain.
      Feels great having the Rain running over your body while your having fun with your Partner, licking the Rain from each others bodies.
    • jo: August 12, 2009 22:48
      Like u need any new idea's mazz!!!
    • Sharon: August 13, 2009 09:45
      Mazz, have you been holding back on us.
      Cheeky B----r...
      Please enlighten me as to what other Interesting places you have
      experienced Pleasure.
      I suppose you have tried B & D or S & M.
      Different Strokes for different folks lol......
    • Katie: August 13, 2009 21:52
      So Mazz, what's new in the world of sex in public places? Please do share with us! :)
    • Mazz: August 14, 2009 14:35
      Yes Sharon, thats right, I am impartial to a bit of S & M who would have guessed? :-P

      Down in the countryside is brilliant, laying in the verges making mad mad love knowing someone could be walking or driving by only inches away!

      Telephone booths, and the bus stop are also one of my haunts!

      Katie...go explore!


    • Sharon: August 15, 2009 09:34
      Mazz, so you must not be a screamer/moaner if you like S&M with the possibility of people being inches away from you.

      You have a high tolerance for pain?
      How do you hide the scratch marks on your back?
      The bites and strap marks don't worry you?

      Brave Lad!

    • sue: August 24, 2009 01:18
      Recently after walking along a river bank, we sat down for a rest and watched the boats going by, sounds boring, oh no!. Before many minutes had passed we were snogging and one thing led to another and our clothes were flying everywhere, all our garments removed, we thought we had better move to somewhere a bit less conspicuous and went to the other side of the bank, where we lay down and had sex and all the trimmings, in private, no, there was a small plane buzzing over head for the whole time but it didn't put us off in fact it made it better. It was a glorious summers day and the sex was wonderful.
    • Sharon: August 24, 2009 17:19
      Sounds like Fun in the Sun.
    • Mazz: August 24, 2009 19:52
      Yea lol

      More idea's!! :-P

    • Mazz: August 25, 2009 08:27
      Mazz, your replies lately lean toward you getting off on what escapades others write about.

      Got no more stories to share?
      Have you run out of Partners?
      Has your well dried up :p

    • John: August 30, 2009 22:21
      I own a small woodland in rural North Wales, my wife and I sometimes like to go there to have outdoor sex, it's fenced off, gated, and so completely private.
      I sometimes wonder if I could rent it out to couples who would like to do this; maybe clear a space in the middle of the wood, put some decking down, then carry in a double bed.
      I would be interested to receive feedback as to whether anyone thinks this is a good idea or not.
    • jo: August 30, 2009 23:20
      John that sounds great not sure about the bed tho!

    • John: August 30, 2009 23:34
      Oh I see - yes, that makes sense, part of the attraction is lying naked on the grass, looking up at the sky and the trees....... perhaps if I just made sure that there was a nice smooth patch of grass, with no nettles or thistles?? Mind you we have had some very erotic times there standing up, with my wife tied spreadeagled between two trees!! Nuf said.
    • Sharon: August 31, 2009 15:24
      Sounds really nice. A bed would be nice with one of those Netting things that you hang over your bed to keep the insects away.
      Also if it was a 4 Poster Bed there could be handcuffs.
      I was thinking it would also be a real turn on to know that you and your partner were being filmed whilst "Getting it on in the Green", a momento to take home.
      The Video Recorder could be set up in a Tree over looking the scene.
      Yep, sounds like a really good idea.
    • jo: August 31, 2009 23:24
      Sharon, a 4 poster sounds divine!
    • Katie: September 01, 2009 15:23
      I wonder what mazz thinks of this...he/she has gone a bit silent...very unlike you mazz come out where ever you are!
    • LoveHoney - Carly: September 01, 2009 15:48
      You may find it easier to continue this conversation on the LoveHoney forums, rather than clogging up a Tracey Cox advice thread!


    • emma: September 08, 2009 17:39
      ive had fun in an outdoor pool in the early hours of the morning now that i would do again. me and my fella have been talking about having sex outdoors.
    • jodie: October 10, 2009 15:41
      Spontanious sex in the great outdoors is a must do for everyone that likes change. its like going back when your having sex whilst hopeing your parents dont find out. The risk factor alone makes the sex amazing, well more so than usual.
      if your a bit more shy, try having a few drinks first, and wait untill its dark.
      or if your inlove with the risk do it in a more public place, but out the way.
      feel your heart beat a million times a minute!


    • Jodie: October 10, 2009 20:12
      I don't need any drinks first!

      I'm always up for sex, indoors or outdoors!

    • DimWit: October 24, 2009 10:36
      There really is nothing quite like making love next to a gently babbling brook in a secluded woodland glade, dappled by warm summer sunshine with the smell of newly-mown hay wafting on a soft breeze... Just watch out for the wood ants going about their business, though..!
    • Jackie: November 25, 2009 21:25
      Nothing like making love to warm you up on a cold winters night :)
    • K.L.: November 29, 2009 01:23
      About the "Short Bus" comment, Yes, great movie!!!! Highly recommend it. About the sex outside, sex is great no matter where you are as long as your enjoying it, right? At least it is for me.
    • Jackie: December 28, 2009 15:43
      I'm getting ready for another week of spontaneous outdoor shagging with my hubby in my back yard :P
    • DimWit: December 31, 2009 17:17
      Wiil you both be wearing galoshes, Jackie..?
    • jo: December 31, 2009 17:22
    • DimWit: December 31, 2009 19:08
      Rubber overshoes, like cut-down wellies... (Sounds a bit kinky , I know!)Happy New Year, Jo..!
    • Jo: January 01, 2010 16:58
      Thanks DimWIt....I luv kinky
    • DimWit: January 01, 2010 23:36
      Me too, Jo! Any Marigolds under the sink? A chamois leather in the garage?
    • Jackie: January 03, 2010 17:21
      Thats a bit kinky DimWit!
    • DimWit: January 03, 2010 17:33
      I tell you something Jackie, having one's bits tickled with a chamois leather is the best - just let your imagination run wild...mmmmm! Not sure about the Marigolds, though - I'm not into rubber. Quite partial to being spanked on the bum with the Woman's Weekly though (as advocated by Victoria Wood).

      Have a Happy and Horny New Year!

    • Jackie: January 05, 2010 04:33
      All this talk is turning me on as I recall the good hard outdoor sex. I'll be getting down & dirty this weekend, thanks DimWit for the suggestions!
    • DimWit: January 12, 2010 14:45
      My pleasure, Jackie! Hope you didn't get cold feet in the snow last weekend. Also, I forgot to mention that the chamois leather should be dry - so it's no good straight after cleaning your windows. As for the Marigolds, I suppose a drop of Fairy Liquid might help things along if no KY to hand...
    • Mazz: January 12, 2010 14:50
      U guys are so kinky, I deffo got to try these ideas :D
    • DimWit: January 12, 2010 14:58
      Kinky? Moi? No way, Mazz! We are all limited only by our imaginations...
    • Jackie: January 16, 2010 19:04
      The recent cold spell has offered me and my partner unlimited passion for spontaneous outdoor sex with no need to hide away for fear of an audience!
    • DimWit: January 20, 2010 16:46
      Well Jackie, I'd always thought that the possibility of there being an audience tended to add a bit of spice to outdoor sex. (Or am I confusing 'al fresco' with 'dogging'?)
    • Jackie: January 20, 2010 17:08
      The fear of there being an unwanted audience is exhilarating!! The thought of voyeurs spying on your hidden activities sounds thrilling!

      Reminds me of the time my partner and I almost got caught (or at least we thought) and knowledge that someone was watching over us for some time now turns me on so so much!

    • DimWit: January 20, 2010 17:23
      My partner and I very nearly got caught last Monday morning when the window cleaner's ladders suddenly appeared above the window sill - another 10 seconds..! We were actually caught alongside the Loch Ness back road one autumn afternoon some years ago, in the bracken next to a footpath when a walker came ambling along as we were in flagrante delicto. Not sure who was more embarrassed...

      PS. Have you tried the chamois leather yet, Jackie?

    • steveo: January 21, 2010 17:48
      i am a builder and i have had a few clients that have taken advantage of me wile working round there houses when there husbands were at work i had one lady i caught looking up my shorts when i was on the next door roof and asked me to look at a job for her. when i went around there she got hold of me and started kissing me what could i do i had to have her there and then in the back garden i bent her over the cement mixer and took her from behind and nearly got caught when the lady i was working for came out with a coffe and heard loud moaning asked if she was ok.
    • Jackie: February 27, 2010 14:33
      The current snow and cold spell is great for outdoor sex, makes it so much more fun in the cold as u turn up the intimate heat! ;)
    • suzie: March 01, 2010 03:15
      A favourite place in the summer is the beach. there's one on Devon that has some rocks at the end, we get just a tad behind do we can shag beautifully but the rocks provide some privacy, just enough!
    • Terri Hayes: April 01, 2010 22:06
      Some couples enjoy it in the bed i know, because they call it 'making love'
      But come on, people need to start being more adventurous and get more out of life! by the time your 50 you should have a loooongg list of all the public venues you have experienced an orgasm.
      Its all about the thrill of getting caught, its being naughty that gets you off and all excited! it puts you on edge the fact that someone can easily catch you bending over a bus stop bench getting fucked!
      Beach: yeahh it is good as its in public, but do you really think it is attractive having sand all over your genitals? No! not a good look for me thanks!
      Car: Typical chosen place to have sex, but to be quite honest it cant really be classed as outdoor sex! if your going to have sex then you have to atleast feel the cold breeze of outdoor nature!

      Comes to the result, outdoor sex is immense, who doesnt want the thrill of excitement, the orgasmic sensation infront of an unexpected audience!
      Sound good to me!

    • Mazz: May 21, 2010 10:34
      This current hot spell is turning me into a sex maniac, I just can't get enough of the great outdoors!
    • Carl: September 06, 2010 23:42
      Just love making love in public to an audience
    • Toptaster: September 07, 2010 20:09
      I think sex in public is great the thrill of being seen adds the extra excitement and that just adds to it givin a real turn on and serious thrill i say why not its not causing any harm and making lots smile, avoid the men in blue thro ha ha
    • Lucy: September 07, 2010 21:23
      Soon it's gonna get dark v soon & u know what that means!!! ;)
    • Toptaster: September 07, 2010 23:03
      Lol well i can imagine sounds good
    • Pinky and Perky: September 08, 2010 18:52
      Does anyone know of any 'safe' dogging sites in the vicinity of Scarborough? Pinky and I are rather keen to find out what this sex in public has to offer, other than a frozen / muddy bum and shrivelled nuts...
    • Slut: September 12, 2010 20:56
      I just can't get enuff love it 2 much!!! ;)
    • Lucy: October 03, 2010 07:32
      Why does sex in public have to be outdoors? We do it here indooors too!

      Try the swimming baths, here in Sydney I did a few times and it was so flaming awesome, really what can I say?? ;)

    • becky: October 09, 2010 09:56
      in the middle of a field next to some trees!! yes you get muddy elbows but it's defiantly worth it!!
    • Pinky and Perky: October 11, 2010 19:17
      Hi becky! Can we join you, please?
    • becky: October 11, 2010 19:20
      If you fancy coming Manchester xD oooh and heaton park was great as well if you ever are in the area!!
    • DJ: October 30, 2010 15:28
      We had it in a large jaccuzzi in a sports club once with about 7 - 8 people. My wife started fondling me under the bubbles and let me work my fingers under her bikini to finger her. She shut her eyes and after ten minutes of working my fingers in her she came to a tense orgasm which she did her best to suppress. Naively she thought people couldn't tell because of the bubbles but in fact I knew several people only feet away could tell. No-one seemed to say anything, or minded and I never told her that they knew.
    • Pinky and Perky: November 01, 2010 22:53
      Well becky, much as I'm sure we'd enjoy mutual al fresco pleasures, Manchester is regrettably a tad too far from Scarborough... xxx
    • Pussy foot: December 14, 2010 22:31
      Its great the winters finally here!
    • Pinky and Perky: December 17, 2010 17:17
      So, Pussy foot, why is that? (Perky certainly isn't when it's cold...though Pinky's pert nipples certainly are...)
    • Toptaster: January 02, 2011 10:00
      Pinkys pert nipples sound good perky ha ha just like the nipples on my-cheating-on-her-husband-gf Lucy whenever we get together for sex any time we can its fun not hurting anybody tho except her insides ha ha
    • Pinky and Perky: January 02, 2011 10:14
      Well Toptaster, Pinky's gorgeous nipples have been very pert and well-lubricated over the Christmas and New Year holiday - there hasn't been much on the box to compete with regular 'afternoon delight', but it's been far too cold and damp for any alfresco activity in the 'great outdoors'... Roll on spring and summer, eh! Best wishes for 2011 to you and Lucy - she sounds a game gal!
    • Lucy: February 02, 2011 11:28
      Why yes pinky or is it perky? Lolz I am a game gal, or should I say game SLUT!!! The thrill of going behind my husbands back is great, he doesn't have a clue so what harm can it do?
    • Perky: February 03, 2011 23:18
      G'day Lucy! Are you a "game slut" from Oz? I suppose it's the height of summer in Sydney - ideal season for a bit of alfresco romping around the barbie fuelled with a few tinnies! However - and forgive me if I seem self-righteous, moralistic and judgmental - I can't condone your adultery. Although I've been there, done that and know what a buzz it is, extra-marital nookie always ends in recrimination and tears. Perhaps you should both seek marriage counselling, or even go dogging together - now that would be something you could both enjoy doing together in public. Here endeth the lesson...
      Incidentally, how old are you, Slutty Sheila?
    • Perky: February 03, 2011 23:21
      Message for Toptaster: perhaps you and Lucy could invite her husband to participate in your fun and games...
    • Lucy: February 04, 2011 12:15
      I agree Perky the thrill and buzz of cheating is just too great thats why I got more than just Toptaster ;) My husband's not into dogging, he probably doesn't even know what that is lolzz. You might be right about my adultry especially if it started affecting my kids but my husband doesn't satisfy me or my needs & a girl has needs!!! And I'm not from Oz lolzz I'm in the uk!!!
    • Toptaster: February 05, 2011 16:03
      Yes Perky why not the more the merrier I say he can watch while I taste. Toptaster by name Toptaster by nature ha ha
    • spankygirl: May 15, 2011 10:59
      Love getting out in the woods near me with a horny man taking me from behind knowing that walkers may catch us out..with a healthy spank just as I'm cumming..yummy!!
    • Bulmer: May 16, 2011 14:01
      Fingers up my bum in public loos is as close I'll get to sex in public.
    • Gay Jay: May 16, 2011 21:32
      So Bulmer, if a finger up your ass qualifies as sex, what about bashing the bishop or flicking the bacon rashers? :)
    • cam_whore_69: June 02, 2011 17:31
      LMAO @ Gay Jay !!!

      I love outdoor sex, I like thinking that I May get caught but secretly I don't care if I do,
      Love the thought of a stranger watching :D

    • Roger: April 25, 2014 01:36
      The past few years I like to suntan at the main public park wearing only a thong! Different colored ones, depending on the day and I am a guy. Planes fly over regularly landing and take off. I guess it gives me a bit of a thrill. I'm out of most of the publics view where I suntan.
    • Roger: April 25, 2014 01:38
      I forgot to mention that where I live, people are VERY conservative and judgemental. I live in central Canada.
    • matilda: July 14, 2014 23:31
      tried outdoor sex one lunchtime last week, was so hot until we got spotted by a dog walker..... was hilarious. we went back a couple of days later in the evening, and had a fantastic time outside....
    • manny: July 20, 2014 16:57
      there are plenty of darkened side streets filled with industrial estates where i live n no1 goes after dark ;) so i drive down nothing on except a coat and my wait for my bf on a street corner to come pick me up like a prostitute and we fuck all night long

      I'm in the north of the uk n it gets quiet cold so not always possible to do in the bushes :P

    • matilda: July 20, 2014 17:08
      manny, i turn up in crutchless pants or a sexy nighty too, under a coat, he never knows what to expect either. i feel excited and naughty before i even meet him! lol
    • manny: August 22, 2014 00:24
      i feel exactly the same way ;) by the time we meet my pussy is soaking wet lol :p
    • dave: August 25, 2015 23:31
      had sex outside once, was on a beach on hol. spontaneous as you like, a few people walked past but we we're in the dark so no one could see anything but a turn on
    • dave: August 26, 2015 23:32
      matilda is a turn on isn't it
    • judi: August 18, 2017 03:04
      I'd just like to have sex!
    • William: January 03, 2018 19:04
      when we were younger my wife and I went at it against a tree in a forest, we could hear other people walking about and it we were say only 60% certain that we were hidden. Became quite heated and when I came we both recall watching it shoot out of her and land on the floor as I carried on. oh dear, made me quite aroused again typing that out...
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