• "My cheating boyfriend wants me back but I feel like I'm chasing him. What should I do about this?"


    I recently split with my boyfriend about three weeks ago after a one-year relationship. Our relationship was always serious, right from the start, and we were both crazy about each other.

    Towards the end of the year together, I found out that he had cheated on me with one of my mates! It didn't stop there, he also cheated on me with five other girls while we were 'on a break'. We didn't have a break. He's now coming back and pledging undying love.

    I do miss him and would love to give it another chance but I don't think I could trust him not to hurt me again. He put me through hell for three months but part of me just wants him home.

    I don't know what to do next. I feel now, that I'm the one chasing after him again, when it should be the other way round.


    You're damn right it should be the other way around. He should be on his knees begging forgiveness and even then, I'd still tell him where to go. This guy doesn't love you!

    He's cheated on you repeatedly. Once is bad enough but a total of six times (that you know of!) is unforgivable. The saying 'once a cheater always a cheater' is true. Very few people who have a history of cheating ever change.

    If you take this guy back he will do the same thing all over again, you will feel like you've been kicked in the teeth all over again and be back to where you are now. Yes, it's painful and you want the 'nice' part of him. But that only comes with the horrible part - the cheating.

    Don't kid yourself he will change, he won't. I guarantee it. Tell this guy he's blown it and you have absolutely no respect for him and never want to see him again. Believe me, after a few months you'll get over it and wonder why you ever dreamed of giving him another chance when he's let you down so badly in the past.

    Fix your love life fast

    Comments (3)

    • Goldie: June 11, 2009 21:11
      Good advice from Tracey, girls! You have to judge a man by his body language and cheating on you means ... well you can work it out. I think that basically men who behave like this are very very insecure and need to have women wound up over them all the time. But you will notice that if you are overly affectionate they will try to put you in your place by playing cool. There are good men around so try to find one of them. Never chase a man!
    • Sharon: June 12, 2009 09:14
      Forget Him Love,

      Once a Cheater always a Cheater.
      You will find someone who deserves you because he sure doesn't.

    • maha: June 13, 2009 19:53
      ur right , when ur boyfriend come back to begging to try again,Some times is true when ur boyfriend come back, because he knew that there are many women he met, but are not better than u and that help him to know that ur characters are good better than other women , he knew thatif he had achance with u every thing we be perfect,. But at first time he couldn`t or he knew that ur are good woman. so he dicided to come back , some thing also woman do that and they knew is right.
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