"Do you believe you should have sex with your husband just because they want to?"
Do you believe you should have sex with your husband just because they want to? I’m going through a period where I’ve just gone off sex.
It’s only been six months and I’m sure I’ll come out of it soon but I resent my husband hassling me. I don’t think it’s right to have sex unless I really feel like it.
I totally disagree with you - and so do a fair majority of reputable sex therapists. Two people will never have the same desire or timing, even if their sex drives are reasonably matched. But when you said ‘I do’ you said ‘I do’ to sex as well. Sex is part of the bargain if you expect your partner to remain married to you and faithful to you.
Six months is a long time without sex without a good reason not to do it. Your husband has a right to expect regular sex and ‘duty shags’, I’m afraid, are all part of the ‘working at the relationship’ that experts rattle on about. Another good reason to just do it: the less sex you have the less sex you want.
Do it and you might just remind yourself of what you’re missing.