"My wife thinks I masturbate too much and wants me to wear a chastity belt. Is this reasonable?"
I have been given an ultimatum by my wife. I have been masturbating too much behind her back and after a lot of pleading for her to forgive me, she told me the only way she would is if I agree to wear a chastity belt, with her holding the keys.
I’ll do it if that’s what she wants. I can’t trust myself not to masturbate and she thinks all my sexual energy should be saved for her. But it still makes me wonder if this is reasonable?
No it’s not reasonable, it’s totally and utterly bonkers! Any ultimatum will instantly put you in an uncomfortable position and if chastity play is something you are not interested in, she is without a doubt asking too much. Unless you're both getting something out of it, this doesn’t just scream ‘control freak’, it also makes me wonder what else is in store.
What about if you look at another woman? Will you be forced to wear a blindfold when out? Just how much are you masturbating? Once or even twice a day isn’t abnormal if you have a very high sex drive. (If you honestly think it is excessive and you might be a sex addict, look up www.sexhelp.com for help. I guarantee you, a chastity belt will not be recommended as part of the treatment!)
Sit down with your wife and tell her what she’s suggesting is unreasonable and unacceptable.