"I've constantly rejected my partner's requests for sex - and now he's rejecting me. What can I do?"
I don’t have a huge sex drive and my partner constantly hassled me for sex in the past. I said no pretty much all the time and now he’s stopped asking.
I actually approached him for sex recently, in an effort to patch things up, and he rejected me. I’m confused and also a bit scared. Did I say no once too often?
As much as it’s awful being pressured into sex, it’s not so great being constantly rejected either. He may well have decided it’s not worth trying anymore and knocking you back is his way of letting you know what it feels like his end.
If you genuinely want to get your sex life back on track, try apologising. Say "I’m sorry I’ve rejected you so often. It must have felt awful at your end. Can we talk about where to go from here?”.
Hopefully this will lead to an open, honest discussion and compromise. It’s not easy balancing two different sex drives but it can be done if both of you are prepared to meet in the middle.