• "Help! My man wants me to masturbate in front of him."


    My new man has told me that he gets off on the idea of me masturbating in front of him. I have never done anything like this before in front of previous partners and am happy to go with the flow but find it initially a bit embarrassing and hard to lose my inhibitions. Have you got any tips for making it more sexually pleasing for us both?


    It’s worth getting over that initial embarrassment because by watching each other masturbate, you see first-hand what technique you each use - the pressure and speed, how you speed it up or slow it down on approach to orgasm, how you stimulate yourself (or not) while you’re actually having an orgasm and what you do with your spare hand.

    All you need do then is copy each other. Generally, men are more comfortable masturbating than women are so get him to go first to break the ice. Put your hand over his so you can feel the pressure and rhythm he uses.

    When it’s your turn, close your eyes so you can’t see him watching, lick your fingers, then simply touch yourself the way you would if he wasn’t there. Tell him, he gets a sneak preview only and start by showing one technique you use: come on - that’s a mere ten seconds of embarrassment!

    After that, get him to put his hand over yours and continue doing it for you. Once you’ve done this once, you’ll be less nervous next time around and the more confident you get, the longer you’ll do it for. Open your eyes once you feel comfortable and don’t expect to bring yourself to orgasm until you’re truly relaxed into it (though this doesn’t stop you putting on an impressive floor show for him in the meantime!)

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    Comments (6)

    • ladybarb: September 02, 2015 05:27
      My hubby loves it when I masturbate, he does it to himself too. We both gets lots of pleasure from it. ASK him to masturbate at the same time, and you'll both orgasm together.
    • Leighton: September 13, 2016 01:10
      You should get him to masturbate in front of you i personally love to be watched while i masturbate
    • Tony Conrad: June 14, 2017 13:52
      I love her watching me do it too. Maybe I'm an exhibitionist but it will never go outside the marriage. Only for her eyes. She won't do it for me because that is not her. That's fair enough. I would never do it alone without thinking of her.
    • Monica Paul: August 27, 2017 13:27
      I love it when i masturbate in front of my boy friend and even more exciting when he has a wank as well. It makes you closer not only sexually but in your releationship but also you get to learn from each other what you each other likes as well
    • Nicole: January 11, 2018 17:02
      Its not hard too especially when he is so hot!I am dating a gorgeous 53 year old man. I never thought I was into older men but seeing him naked, hard and walking around my house really turns me on, I didn’t hesitate when he asked me to. 2 fingers in while watching his Greek-god body and that hard 7 inch cock quickly had me begging him to fuck my brains out
    • Georgia: February 16, 2018 04:01
      What is masturbate
      And how do I do it
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