• Instant Sex Fix 4: How Do I Get Him To Use A Vibrator On Me In Bed?

    how do I get him to use a vibrator on me?

    Want to sort your sex life - fast? This is the fourth in a series of blogs designed to transform your love life with instant, easy fixes for common couple sex complaints.


    Some men are sexually experienced and cool enough to accept a vibrator’s going to do it for you more regularly than any part of him will. But this also assumes you’ve been honest about your orgasms.

    If he’s used to giving you extra clitoral stimulation with his fingers, or knows you only orgasm during oral, he’s unlikely to gasp with astonishment if you suggest using a vibrator during penetration.

    If you fake it regularly and never admit to so much as masturbating, he’s going to be a little perplexed as to why your twosome’s suddenly turned into a threesome.

    So the absolute first step is to make sure you’ve come clean. So to speak. The second is to make sure you own a non-threatening vibrator that’s not bigger than he is (bullet vibes are perfect). Then...

    Pull it out from under the covers seductively and say ‘I know you like to watch’...

    Use it on yourself, put on a show (and take your time - he doesn’t need to know immediately that it takes you a second to orgasm with it and half an hour with him.)

    Once he’s got used to having the three of you in bed together...

    He’ll be more open to using it during sex together. Bring it out a few sessions later and say ‘What about you?’. Even if he laughingly fobs you off, just play around a bit. Buzz around his nipples. Have a laugh. To be honest, I’ve never met a man yet who’s been hugely keen on vibrators used on his penis. Try running it on a very low speed up and over the shaft but don’t be surprised if he says ‘Don’t know what you girls are on about!’ and pushes it away. You’ll be more successful holding it against his perineum while using your hand on him - or during oral sex. Many men have turned from cold to convert by you holding it to the side of your cheek as you fellate him.

    Once everyone’s made friends...

    The next step (a few more sessions on) is to wait till he’s using his hand to stimulate your clitoris during intercourse, then say ‘Wait I’ve got an idea’, and pull out your vibe. Say ‘I know your poor hand gets tired’. If you’ve been pretending to orgasm and haven’t been, say ‘I wonder what a vibrator orgasm would feel like while you’re inside me compared to the usual one’.

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    Comments (1)

    • Dee: September 05, 2017 10:30
      A good way around this purchase a wireless love egg. Insert it and give him the control. That way he stays in control and doesn't feel inadequate, giving him all the power, do it in the build up to sex, we have done it while I have been cooking dinner, or go out on a date wearing it and watch as he enjoys having control over you and you get all the thrills. Then when get to bedroom he can remove it and do some fingering and oral before the main event
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