• 10 New Reasons to Love... Your Wand Vibrator

    10 reasons to love your wand vibrator

    This is the first in a series of posts designed to make sure you’re getting the most out of all the sex toys you own.

    All too often they get relegated to one purpose: what they’re best for.

    While every sex toy does have a prime purpose, they’re all far more versatile than you think.

    Here’s some fresh new ideas to help you make the most of your sex toys so you get maximum value and pleasure out of every purchase!


    Wand vibrators are hugely popular because the smooth, round silicone head provides deep, strong vibration over a satisfyingly large area.

    It's one of many reasons why this type of vibe is the number one choice for most women for clitoral stimulation during solo sex sessions.

    But wand vibes are also completely couple-friendly because they're not realistic and so unthreatening - and they're ideally shaped to use on her breasts, nipples and thighs or his testicles, perineum or anal area.

    Massage your aching legs or back

    Yes really! It's not just an excuse people make for buying big massagers.

    Put the wand on a strong setting, hold in one hand and drop it over your shoulder to massage those tight back muscles to release tension.

    Wand vibes work a treat on sore legs as well: great if you're a runner!

    Add some lube

    While you’ll automatically reach for the lube for vibrators you insert, it’s not necessary with a wand vibrator.

    But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t enhance the experience - it does!

    For an even more intense orgasm, try adding some stimulating orgasm gel.

    Try a new position

    The standard way to masturbate is to lie on your back with legs spread. Mix it up a little: try standing, squatting, lying on top of the massager or reaching it in between your legs and using it from behind.

    Try rolling it

    Most people press wand vibes firmly over the closed lips of the vagina and hold it still, varying the pressure until they orgasm and adjusting it to press down on areas where it feels good. That's the basic technique that works every time.

    Rolling the flexible head around the area feels entirely different. Try alternating between rolling and holding it still and firm to make solo orgasms last longer.

    Go hands-free

    Kneel on your hands and knees on the bed and put the massager in between your legs with the head firmly clasped between the top of your thighs. If it's on the strongest setting, the vibrations will be strong enough to bring you to orgasm while your hands are free to stimulate your breasts or read erotica.

    Wand vibes are strong: the vibration travels down the shaft.

    Get your partner in on the action

    The only thing better than being massaged by a wand vibe is being able to lie back and relax while someone else does it for you. Get your partner to roll the wand gently over your breasts, nipples, stomach and thighs to arouse and relax.

    Or go for double stimulation by getting him or her to use the vibe on your clitoris, while inserting a well-lubed finger inside your anus.

    Girl-on-girl vibes

    Hold it between the two of you and share the vibrations while you kiss and play with each other's breasts.

    Bottoms up!

    Use it to stimulate the nerve endings around the rim of the anus on both of you, experimenting with the different speeds and patterns of vibration to suit the mood.

    Outrageously good oral

    Hold it under his testicles on a low setting while using your hands or mouth on him or hold it against your cheek during oral sex.

    Increase the intensity of vibration by pressing firmer or using it directly on the part you're stimulating. Most women don't use the wand directly on the clitoris because it's too intense but some women love extra strong stimulation.

    Decrease the intensity of vibration by putting something between you and the head of the vibrator like a T-shirt, panties, sheet or pillow.

    TEAMS WELL WITH...

    Anal toys: Insert a butt plug or prostate massager before using it on the vulva during solo sex.

    Lube: Stimulation orgasm gel or any water-based lube makes anything you do with it feel even better.

    Bullet vibes: Bullet vibes and wand vibes feel very different: try a bullet vibe on your nipples and a wand vibe clenched between your thighs.

    Strokers: Wand vibes are big and stimulate a large area so it doesn't matter if it's knocked slightly now and then. Perfectly doable, then, for you to use a stroker to masturbate him while he holds the wand in place over the clitoral area.

    A slim, penetrative vibe: If you're craving penetration as well or want to try for a blended orgasm (vaginal and clitoral simultaneously), insert a classic vibe into place before pressing the wand against the clitoral area.

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