• Question:

    I am a 40 year old virgin (yes we do exist!) who was waiting for the right woman to come along but she never arrived. I did consider a sex worker but didn’t want the first time to be so throw away. I work in a male environment so don't meet any women there and I don't go out socialising because I work long hours. I haven't told anyone I’m a vigin but I feel some people have an idea: they just don't say anything but it’s like the elephant in the room. I like women and feel comfortable in their company but I lack self confidence when it comes to sex. How can I overcome this problem and do you think that a prostitute is a good idea after all?

    Question:

    I used to love sex but for some reason over the last couple of years I have lost all interest and our sex life has got very predictable and boring. I’m lacking confidence in my body and we both work shift work so I’m always tired. I don't want this to ruin our relationship. Do you have any suggestions on what I can do to spice things up or get my libido back?

    Question:

    If I want to orgasm during sex, I always have to fantasise. Sometimes I think about my partner, but more often it's someone else – a stranger, an ex or even someone we both know. I wonder if my partner and I experimented more I wouldn’t need to do this. How can I broach my fantasies with him?

    Question:

    I never orgasm from it and I don’t particularly like doing it to my partner either. My jaw gets sore and I can't do it for long. How can I enjoy it more?

    Question:

    My boyfriend likes intercourse to last for ages but I’m happy with it lasting around 10 - 15 minutes. How can I get him to see that’s enough without offending?

    Question:

    I find I often get distracted during sex and start thinking about things which are totally unrelated. It’s not that I’m not enjoying it, I just drift off.

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