• Question:

    My husband has changed over the years from a happy, genuinely kind man into someone I don’t recognise. He constantly puts me down and rarely gives me compliments, yet still expects sex. My reaction is to think ‘Why should I have sex with him? What’s he done that’s nice for me?’. The end result is that we have stopped having sex and the tension has got even worse. I don’t know what to do to fix either our sex life or our relationship.


    I'm seeing someone that I'm really attracted to, the sex is really great (best I have had) but there's something holding me back. I'm not a very sexually confident person. I'm good at the ‘old fashioned’ things like hand jobs and I’m good at going down on him - great, actually!  But when I get on top, I get all self-conscious. I worry I look weird from that angle and while I’m having sex. Also, I don't think I'm very good at being in top generally. How can I become better at all this and really make him think that this is the best sex he's ever had?


    My husband keeps going to strip clubs behind my back. When I confronted him - well, I caught him - he said he wouldn’t change. I try everything to please him at home. What do you think I should do? Just put up with it?

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    I have been seeing a bloke for a couple of months now and from the second date he has been quite pushy for sex. I slept with him on date four, as it felt right to. He was very good at oral sex and said he was enjoying it, we tried quite a few positions and both had a good time (even though I didn't orgasm!).

    As he was about to come, he withdrew and asked if he could ejaculate on my face. I said yes and he jumped up on the bed, took the condom off, stood over me and did it. His manner slightly surprised me, no one has ever done that to me before. He said he found it fun! I have had mixed response from friends, some say its degrading, others think it’s fine.

    I am not too bothered, just didn’t see it coming! I wonder why he didn’t want to come inside me and whether he just views me as a sex object. (I was wearing a corset and stockings etc). What is your perspective on this?


    I’m told that the feeling of a woman swallowing while performing oral on a man is fantastic but my long term girl friend doesn’t like the whole concept. Is there anything you can suggest to encourage her?


    My husband and I love sex and have a great sex life but are well aware that lust dies over time. What can we do now to make sure things don’t go stale later?


    I’m a happily married man with two small children. I still love having sex with my wife but, sadly, the chances are few and far between with the kids around. At the end of the day, she’s exhausted.

    About two months ago, we had some foreplay and my wife seemed well into it. We started having sex but then I realised after a few minutes that she’d fallen asleep. I feel a really bad person for admitting this but I kept going for another few minutes and finished the job while she was asleep. I felt bad about it but when I told my wife in the morning, she just laughed and thought it was funny. She said she didn’t blame me since we have sex so rarely.

    Since then she’s jokingly said ‘Feel free to have your wicked way while I’m snoring’ before we go to sleep. Do you think she’s serious? And if she is, isn’t there something wrong with doing this? I just want our sex life back to how it used to be, before the kids came along. When will it go back to normal?


    My boyfriend says he wants to try S & M. I don’t really know anything about it but what I do know, doesn’t thrill me at all. He says he wants to play games where I’m in charge or he is and we get to boss each other around. I’m usually up for most things but do you think this involves causing pain because I’m definitely not into that!


    My new girlfriend complains that I take too long to orgasm, though other girls have complimented me on lasting a long time. I usually hold off for at least 40 minutes or so. She said most women only like having sex for about ten minutes. Which sounds right to you? And if she’s right, why would all my other ex-girlfriends lie?

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