• Question:

    My husband and I love sex and have a great sex life but are well aware that lust dies over time. What can we do now to make sure things don’t go stale later?

    Question:

    I’m a happily married man with two small children. I still love having sex with my wife but, sadly, the chances are few and far between with the kids around. At the end of the day, she’s exhausted.

    About two months ago, we had some foreplay and my wife seemed well into it. We started having sex but then I realised after a few minutes that she’d fallen asleep. I feel a really bad person for admitting this but I kept going for another few minutes and finished the job while she was asleep. I felt bad about it but when I told my wife in the morning, she just laughed and thought it was funny. She said she didn’t blame me since we have sex so rarely.

    Since then she’s jokingly said ‘Feel free to have your wicked way while I’m snoring’ before we go to sleep. Do you think she’s serious? And if she is, isn’t there something wrong with doing this? I just want our sex life back to how it used to be, before the kids came along. When will it go back to normal?

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    My boyfriend says he wants to try S & M. I don’t really know anything about it but what I do know, doesn’t thrill me at all. He says he wants to play games where I’m in charge or he is and we get to boss each other around. I’m usually up for most things but do you think this involves causing pain because I’m definitely not into that!

    Question:

    My new girlfriend complains that I take too long to orgasm, though other girls have complimented me on lasting a long time. I usually hold off for at least 40 minutes or so. She said most women only like having sex for about ten minutes. Which sounds right to you? And if she’s right, why would all my other ex-girlfriends lie?

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    My boyfriend won't go down on me. How do I convince him or make it a better experience for him? I feel like I've tried everything including a healthier diet, shaving differently, etc. If he ever does goes down, he loses his erection! Help!

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    My new man has told me that he gets off on the idea of me masturbating in front of him. I have never done anything like this before in front of previous partners and am happy to go with the flow but find it initially a bit embarrassing and hard to lose my inhibitions. Have you got any tips for making it more sexually pleasing for us both?

    Question:

    I have started seeing an older man - I’m 23 and he is 37 and I would like to know the best way to keep him happy in bed.

    He loves me giving him oral sex and I quite enjoy doing it but I get bored easily after what feels like about four or five minutes. I then stop and kiss him and he finds this annoying. How can I make it so I don’t get bored so easily?

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    My wife is conservative when it comes to sex. I have introduced her to a rabbit vibrator and although it seems that she enjoys it, she now complains that it gives her the "itches". This is despite me ensuring it’s kept clean and in a hygienic state. Could it be that the material it’s made of that’s responsible for the itching?

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    I don’t feel any sensation during sex. I recently had a one night stand with this cute guy after nearly five years of sexual abstinence and I did not enjoy or feel anything. Prior to the abstinence, I had just lost my virginity and did not have a sex life.

    I must have had sex about five times which felt numb and sensationless.  When will I start to enjoy sex? Will a pelvic toner help? I'm approaching my late twenties and I'd like to start enjoying sex sooner than later.

    Question:

    About three years ago I met a man (we're both in our 40s and divorced). We became friends and after a few months had a fling. Although I wanted a relationship, he didn't and told me he just wanted my friendship. This was obviously very hard for me so I decided to distance myself from him for a time. However, over the past six months we've become friends again and spend time together every month or so - always very relaxed, lots of laughs and no discussion about where our friendship might lead, and no physical contact.

    In emails and texts he has always signed himself off with his initial "J" and never his full name. But over the last couple of months he has started to occasionally sign himself off as "Jon" - he never does this when we're in contact about arrangements on where to meet etc (it's always "J" in these messages), but he will sometimes sign off as "Jon" when we're talking about something more personal or when he's thanked me for something.

    Also, despite the fact that he still leads me to understand that he just wants us to remain friends, when we said goodbye last week I lifted up my face to get the usual peck on the cheek and he kissed me on the lips. It wasn't particularly sexual, but a sweet little kiss on the mouth.  And no, it wasn't a mistake on his part, he didn't miss my cheek! Although I have not received any indication from him that he wants more than friendship from me, these two little things have made me wonder. Is he just more relaxed with me as we've known each other for so long?  Or could he now want more than just friendship? What do you think?

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