It’s four days to Valentine’s Day and if you’re like most couples I know, the emphasis for February 14th will be on doing something ‘romantic’. Go for it - but when you’re done with the flowers and bubbles and three-course dinner, sign up for my 10-day sex challenge to make sure you keep sex as well as love alive!
1. Rushing into it.
A few pathetic fumbles to check if she’s wet does not make her ready for you to plunge on in.
Unless you’re both fired up for a quickie, keep that penis away until you’ve paid some lip service and at least inserted some fingers to check she’s lubricated and ready for you...
Dare to do the clichés: Like chocolate body paint poured on and licked off. The reason why they’re clichés is because they’re often what people want to do, but are too scared to.
Start a ‘sex jar’: Each write down 10 things you’d like to try. Rip into separate points, fold and put all of them into a jar. Pick out one a week to try. (Insist on pre-approval if you think ‘lure the hot 18-year-old next door in for a threesome’ will simply be repeated by your partner.)
Ready to shake up your sex life? From romantic to raunchy, comfortable to challenging, a new sex position is a great way to have a healthier, happier sex life with minimum effort on your part.
1. You need access to his testicles, anus and perineum as well as to be able to grasp the base of the penis and slide the other hand up and over. In other words, you need room.
Also make sure you’re not at an angle where your hand’s going to end up in a weird position and get twisted or cramped...
1. Use the flat of your tongue, not the tip of it when you go down on her. Use the tip and your tongue will be knackered out in about five minutes.
It feels too hard on her end (especially at the start) and if you flatten out your tongue as much as possible, it covers a bigger area and feels deliciously soft and squishy.
I'm becoming more concerned about an issue I have that seems to have worsened over the past two years. In short, I'm completely out of practice when it comes to initiating sex. I've been with my partner for 6 years and although sex has always been infrequent it was never an issue. I have no problem trying my luck after a night out but my girlfriend refuses because she says sex when she’s slightly tipsy makes her feel dirty. Unfortunately, when sober, we go to bed reading books.
I know the answer is to express myself and explain I’m not happy but how do you start that kind of conversation? I still love her and still find her extremely attractive but right now I feel wrong and dirty for wanting to touch and kiss her.
I've been with a guy on and off for the past few years. I've seen other people in between but keep ending up back with my ex. I'm sick of the on again, off again routine but love, love, LOVE the sex! He knows me and what I like and I know all his spots too, and we always find new ways to spice things up. What do you think I should do? Stay or leave for good?
I'm 42 and very happily married with three kids. My husband and I have a good sex life but lately I’ve been very attracted to a younger friend of mine. He's 24. We go to bars and clubs together and we flirt quite a lot. I know he finds me attractive as he isn't shy about telling me. I tend to make more of an effort with my makeup and how I dress when I'm around him.
On more than one occasion I've been tempted to give in to my desires, but the thought of losing my husband and kids stops me. How can I go about exploring my desires so nobody gets hurt?
I’ve been with my girl for five years and at the beginning I’d come within a minute of entering her. I bought a book on the ‘stop-start’ method and now I can last ages (half an hour or more) but only if I use this technique. The trouble is, all the stopping and starting puts her off and she finds it hard to climax because of it. Is there anything else we can do or try?