• Question:

    I used to have an amazing relationship with my partner who I have been with since I was 16. We now have a gorgeous daughter (four months old) but sex is rubbish since I gave birth. I just don’t want sex at all with anyone, not just him.

    Before I gave birth, I was up for it 4-5 times a week. I’m also not sure that I’m in love with my husband or fancy him anymore either. I know I love and care for him but it feels more like he’s my best friend. He tells me he loves me everyday and says he still finds me attractive.

    But I hate my body now that I’ve gone up three dress sizes. I’m so confused and don’t want to be unhappy since this is a time when I should be enjoying my new baby.


    Last year I found my partner in bed with another woman. After much soul searching we agreed to work our relationship out. It’s been a difficult 18 months but I feel like we have come through it.

    We are very happy together, have fun, respect each other and everything would be perfect except for one thing - my partner now doesn’t want to have sex with me. We haven’t had sex for four months.

    I have dressed up, given him compliments, tried to seduce him, but nothing. He says there isn’t a problem but still he isn’t interested. Consequently I feel very unattractive and am thinking of leaving the relationship.

    It feels like it was me who cheated and me who has tried to work things out. It was my idea to work through things initially.


    I'm 26 and I'm engaged to an amazing man. We get so turned on by each other but I'm not confident in bed at all, we always just end up doing it missionary style, which I love but it just feels like a routine.

    I'm very self conscious and think this is part of the problem. Please help, I love my fiancé so much and don’t want him to get bored of me!


    I've never had sex and the thing that stops me is I feel really insecure about my vagina. I think it looks different compared to other girls.

    Is there a wrong and right looking vagina?


    I am a mature woman who has been married, had children and - after 12 years - am now divorced. My ex was abusive and has now re-married. I have always enjoyed sex and never had a problem having orgasms.

    But I now realise that this had nothing to do with the men involved in my life, it’s because I’ve taken ownership of my body and sex. In the past, I used to fall under their 'spell' as I thought it was them making me feel good.

    The problem is, now I know the truth - that’s it’s me making sex feel good - where do I go from here? I am independent and happy but find when there’s a man in my life, it makes things worse not better. I would eventually like a good relationship.

    Any advice on how to make the next part of my life more successful relationship wise?


    I recently went off the pill and found my sex drive increased immediately. Is this normal?

    I want to stay on the pill but don’t like the affect it has on my sex drive.


    I’ve now been seeing my boyfriend for three months and we get on great together. Although he has no problems with touching me before sex, as soon as I attempt to go down on him or touch him he always stops me. He’ll put his hand over his penis to stop me going there.

    I don’t understand! We’ve had intercourse but he just won’t let me touch or fellate him. I wonder if it’s a size issue? It’s weird because he’ll send me sexy texts saying he’d love me to go down on him. But when I try to, he stops me! I don’t understand what’s going on!


    My wife and I have been married for five years and together for 10. Recently, she has completely gone off sex, even to the point of snapping at me if I raise the subject.

    We took a short break together a couple of weeks ago, and as a surprise I bought a G-spot vibe to add a spark to any sex we might possibly have.

    But to my shock and surprise, when presented with it, it seemed to turn her off and she called me a perv saying that ‘those things are for girls who are alone without a penis to play with". I’m at a loss of what to do now.


    I’m 37 and don’t really know how many men I’ve slept with but am guessing it’s over 30.

    The man I’m now with asked me how many before him and I said six, because that’s the average. It’s a lie and I’m terrified he’ll find out. Should I confess?


    I am a gay man of 20 years old and want a relationship so badly but have no one.

    How can I make a guy like me - just one. Anyone!

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