• Question:

    My girlfriend told me months ago about a sexual fantasy she has which revolves around impregnation.

    We do a lot of role-play anyway but I was wondering how I could spice up the pregnancy aspect of the fantasy. Have you ever encountered this before and do you have any tips?

    Actually getting her pregnant is not what I want – and neither does she. We take plenty of precautions.


    I love the man I’ve been seeing for past eight months but he’s absolutely hopeless in bed. I love sex and it’s really important to me that it’s satisfying and rewarding.

    How can you tell if the sex is going to get better or if it’s a lost cause and I need to move on.


    My boyfriend and I have been out twice, both for two and a half years over a seven year period. We split up in between that and are now in our early twenties.

    During the split, I slept with another person but he didn't. We’re happily back together but the fact that I slept with someone else and he didn’t bothers him.

    Now he’s wondering if him sleeping with someone else would stop him feeling inadequate because I’m the only person he’s ever been with.

    He wants to be with me, but this is getting in the way. Do you think that him having sex with someone else would help our situation?


    I've been with my boyfriend for 18-months but have yet to have an orgasm during sex and haven’t with anyone else either.

    I have a traumatic sexual past. I was raped when I was 17. Although that was two years ago, it's really getting to me that it's affecting my relationship now.

    My boyfriend is not pushy at all and is always very understanding, but I can't help but think I’m disappointing him. What should I do?


    I have met a man who I really like but he told me he’s asexual. Am I right in assuming this means he doesn’t like sex? What does it actually mean?


    I used to have an amazing relationship with my partner who I have been with since I was 16. We now have a gorgeous daughter (four months old) but sex is rubbish since I gave birth. I just don’t want sex at all with anyone, not just him.

    Before I gave birth, I was up for it 4-5 times a week. I’m also not sure that I’m in love with my husband or fancy him anymore either. I know I love and care for him but it feels more like he’s my best friend. He tells me he loves me everyday and says he still finds me attractive.

    But I hate my body now that I’ve gone up three dress sizes. I’m so confused and don’t want to be unhappy since this is a time when I should be enjoying my new baby.


    Last year I found my partner in bed with another woman. After much soul searching we agreed to work our relationship out. It’s been a difficult 18 months but I feel like we have come through it.

    We are very happy together, have fun, respect each other and everything would be perfect except for one thing - my partner now doesn’t want to have sex with me. We haven’t had sex for four months.

    I have dressed up, given him compliments, tried to seduce him, but nothing. He says there isn’t a problem but still he isn’t interested. Consequently I feel very unattractive and am thinking of leaving the relationship.

    It feels like it was me who cheated and me who has tried to work things out. It was my idea to work through things initially.


    I'm 26 and I'm engaged to an amazing man. We get so turned on by each other but I'm not confident in bed at all, we always just end up doing it missionary style, which I love but it just feels like a routine.

    I'm very self conscious and think this is part of the problem. Please help, I love my fiancé so much and don’t want him to get bored of me!


    I've never had sex and the thing that stops me is I feel really insecure about my vagina. I think it looks different compared to other girls.

    Is there a wrong and right looking vagina?


    I am a mature woman who has been married, had children and - after 12 years - am now divorced. My ex was abusive and has now re-married. I have always enjoyed sex and never had a problem having orgasms.

    But I now realise that this had nothing to do with the men involved in my life, it’s because I’ve taken ownership of my body and sex. In the past, I used to fall under their 'spell' as I thought it was them making me feel good.

    The problem is, now I know the truth - that’s it’s me making sex feel good - where do I go from here? I am independent and happy but find when there’s a man in my life, it makes things worse not better. I would eventually like a good relationship.

    Any advice on how to make the next part of my life more successful relationship wise?

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