• Question:

    I'm very much an amateur when it comes to sex because I've had to overcome a lot of childhood conditioning that left me with an extremely negative attitude towards sex and low desire. I am now at the point where I'm enjoying sex but I haven't yet had an orgasm.

    I feel this is normal and at this point I should be simply enjoying what I'm feeling and learning to relax completely and let go. My boyfriend, however, is getting completely paranoid over the fact he can't make me come.

    I'm starting to feel like orgasms are the sole aim of sex! It's all everyone ever seems to talk about! Are they really so important?

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    I've had strong feelings towards a female friend of mine for about six months. We get on well but every time I try to tell her how I feel, I get the shakes and end up changing the subject. I'm so scared that I will lose her to somebody else but don't want to be possessive in a friendship or relationship.


    I am having major penis problems. Every time my wife and I have sex it's all over too quickly or else the opposite happens and I can't seem to come at all. What's going on here?

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    My new potential partner is still living with his ex girlfriend and although I was cool with this at first, four months later it is becoming very frustrating. I am left relying on him to suggest days we can meet up and if we want to get intimate it has to be at mine.

    We live 80 miles apart so it's not easy to see each other regularly anyway but this is adding extra strain. Recently I've felt like I'm the bottom of his priority list although I'm confused as he appears to really like me. We've had one open discussion about the ex situation (which he instigated) but I'm not sure how to bring it up again without pushing him away by coming across as too demanding. Please help.


    Is it OK for women to suggest doing 'kinky' things in bed? I always thought it was the man's job to do this but my boyfriend never comes up with anything new.

    I told my best friend I was going to suggest a tie-up game and she was horrified, saying that's the 'man's job'.

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    I've got the horrible feeling the guy I'm dating is a virgin because he hasn't made a move on me and we've been seeing each other for two months now.

    Is there any way to tell and how do I handle it if he is?

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