Her latest work, Dare: What Happens When Fantasies Come True, is a departure from her usual tongues-on advice. It contains the anonymous accounts of various women who have enacted their sexual fantasies in real life. First we read the fantasy in all its glossy eroticism (“His body is extraordinary and he knows it”, etc). Then we hear about the fantasist’s actual life. Finally we hear what happens when they try the fantasy out. Usually, it’s rubbish. The chapters include “I performed live for a webcam”; “My husband wanted to watch me have sex with another man”; “I tried to save our marriage with anal play”; and “I let my rich lover control me sexually”, very Fifty Shades of Grey-esque.
Tracey was interviewed by Scotland on Sunday about her new book, Dare: What Happens When Fantasies Come True.
Her latest tome is a departure from her usual self-help style. As upfront as Cox herself, this one tells us in the title exactly what we’re going to get - Dare: What Happens When Fantasies Come True, in all their car crash, toe-curling, funny and uplifting detail. “Fifty Shades came out and, love or hate it, it proves people will still buy books, that sex sells and women aren’t prudes who only like romantic tales.
“It had an effect - our soft bondage kit sold out within two seconds. So my publisher wanted me to write erotic fiction but I was absolutely hopeless because, being a therapist, I would get up in the night and fix the characters’ problems, ruining the plot. So I did this instead. I have been writing about sex for 20-odd years and have done tons of interviews; people just tell me stuff, share their fantasies.”
A recent survey revealed we are now more likely to visit the doctor with symptoms of a cold than the early signs of the disease.
Television’s leading sex and dating expert Tracey Cox is not easily shocked but those statistics horrify her, because a smear test saved her life.
“If I had not been screened I would not be here,” she says with the matter-of-fact directness that has become her hallmark through shows such as The Sex Inspectors and Would Like To Meet.
Having a sister who is a family planning nurse, Tracey knew the importance of regular smears and never missed a check...