Question:
I have never been able to have a vaginal orgasm. I am fine with it because I own a vibrator and can orgasm on my own. I have tried to use my vibrator during sex but it doesn’t work so it’s very frustrating for both me and my boyfriend. Should I just accept that I cannot have vaginal orgasms?
Answer:
Well, no-one actually has vaginal orgasms! Orgasms are generated by the clitoris – which is, of course, why you are keen to introduce a vibe into bed with you.
(Yes, some women can orgasm through intense stimulation of the front wall of the vagina but that’s still not a vaginal orgasm because it’s stimulation of the female prostate and the area around the urethra.)
Buy hey, you don’t really care about that because what you’re really asking me is this: how do I have an orgasm with him inside me. Right? First up, you say you’ve tried using your vibrator but don’t say what sort of vibrator it is. What works for you solo, can be highly ineffective in bed with the two of you.
The best vibes for the job aren’t Rabbits, but things like vibrating penis rings, finger vibes (they make it easier to hold on the clitoris) or a slim little bullet vibe is also great: intense in vibration but non intrusive.
