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    this is how men really feel about sex

    Want to know what he really thinks and feels about sex?

    This is a snapshot of what men have told me during the three decades I've been writing and researching about sex and relationships.

    Read and learn - I certainly have over the years!

    Think you're Good At Oral Sex Because Your Technique Is Good?

    Here’s six things that matter just as much.

    Giving great oral is part attitude, part technique and a whole lot about enthusiasm.

    You’ll find how-to technique guides for both of you here but they’re useless unless you get these basics right.

    These are the six fundamentals that matter just as much as tongue technique - and they apply to every sex and everyone.

    are you too close for great sex?

    Is your partner your best friend?

    It’s ironic: the couples who have the closest, soul-mate connection and the best relationships often have the worst sex lives. Why? Because the same wonderful intimacy that makes us yearn to merge as ‘one’, obliterates desire.

    Nothing kills sexual chemistry quicker than becoming best friends.

    Here’s how to keep the intimacy but rescue the sex!

    how do I get him to use a vibrator on me?

    Want to sort your sex life - fast? This is the fourth in a series of blogs designed to transform your love life with instant, easy fixes for common couple sex complaints.

    How can we have a 69er that's satisfying?

    Want to sort your sex life - fast? This is the third in a series of blogs designed to transform your love life with instant, easy fixes for common couple sex complaints.

    he prefers watching porn to having sex with me

    Want to sort your sex life - fast? This is the second in a series of blogs designed to transform your love life with instant, easy fixes for common couple sex complaints. What if he prefers porn to having sex with me?

    he wants me to swallow

    This is the first of a series of blogs designed to transform your love life with instant, easy fixes for common couple sex complaints. What do I do if he wants me to swallow?

    what to do if he's not up for it part 2

    Your partner’s off sex? Here you’ll find practical solutions to get him back in bed again. But if you haven’t read Part 1, give it a quick read first. It talks about why he may have lost desire - which is crucial to know! Stop trying to seduce him if it’s not working.

    what to do if he's not up for sex part 1

    Popular opinion has women turning to face the wall but more and more often these days, it’s men who are trotting out the ‘Not tonight dear’ line. Why have men gone off sex and what to do if it’s happening to you.

    what to do if she's not up for it part 2

    Sex life been a bit, well, non-existent lately?

    This will help if the woman in your life has been less than interested in sex lately.

    Give Part 1 a quick read first; here, you’ll find practical tips.

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