• Ask Tracey Cox a sex or relationship question

    could faking it help you have a real orgasm?

    The answer, surprisingly, is yes!

    Up to 80 percent of women fake orgasms at some point, according to research - and that might not be a bad thing.

    Turns out some women fake it in order to make it a real orgasm happen. Researchers surveyed 481 heterosexual females, all sexually active but not in serious relationships.

    The results, published in The Journal of Sexual Archives, threw up the usual, predictable reasons for faking - but also a surprising one.

    8 penis myths - busted!

    No other part of the human body is more shrouded in myth and folklore than man’s most precious part - the penis.

    There are so many stubborn myths surrounding those six inches (except it’s actually not six inches), even savvy sexual people believe ‘facts’ that simply aren’t true.

    40 things I wish I'd know about love and men when i was 20

    So you liked my post ’50 things I wish I’d known about sex when I was 20’?

    Lots of you clicked on it and I’m so pleased!

    Given the popularity, I thought I’d do the same concept but apply it to love instead of lust.

    Here’s the end result!

    Everyone of every sexual orientation will learn something from this piece but it’s especially for all the young women who write to me asking for love advice.

    This is for you.

    Everything I wish I’d known myself, back in the day!

    what women wish men knew about sex

    Ever wish you came with a set of instructions that you could just hand over to your lover?

    Well, here’s a list I’ve started for you. Customise and add... and keep on adding throughout your relationship.

    50 Things I Wish I'd Known About Sex When I Was 20

    I originally wrote this article for the Mail Online but it was so popular, I’ve decided to share it again here. Wouldn’t it have been nice if someone had handed this article to you when YOU were 20? (And do pass it onto your own kids who are 20-plus!)

    8 most common excuses to get out of sex

    No time, bored or simply can't be bothered?

    These are just some of the excuses we drag out to explain why sex isn't on the agenda.

    But which of these excuses are legitimate and which are thinly disguised avoidance tactics?

    Even more importantly, how do you get past those sexual sticking points and get things moving again?

    is your weight affecting your sex life?

    Fifty percent of British women have put off sex - even when they’re in the mood - because they felt too fat. “Bedroom body shame is ruining sex for an alarming, growing number of women, from the petite to the plus size,” says Michael Alvear, the author of Not Tonight Dear, I Feel Fat. “It's irrelevant what size you are because body anxiety has nothing to do with being fat, it’s about thinking you are.”

    Do you spend every sex session paranoid your partner’s going to touch some part of you that isn’t quite perfect?

    Here’s how stop worrying about your body and feel fabulous about yourself!

    five very female sex wobbles

    We women are wonderful creatures in many, many ways but we are also capable of worrying ourselves stupid about things that really shouldn’t matter.

    Never is this more the case than when we’re talking about sex.

    Sex taps into our most secret, inner fears, which is why it has the power to completely throw us when we should be confident.

    All of the following sex wobbles have the potential to destroy your sex life yet all are easily fixed. Read on for reassurance!

    are these the best places to have sex?

    Just as there are certain sex acts that shouldn't be missed, there are places you should have been naked in.

    These are my pick of the top 10 places to have sex (though I'm looking forward to seeing where else gets the vote!).

    Tick 'Yes!' to six and over of the following sexy settings and you're officially adventurous, four shows healthy experimentation, three is usual - and anything under inexcusable!

    Get cracking!

    this is how men really feel about sex

    Want to know what he really thinks and feels about sex?

    This is a snapshot of what men have told me during the three decades I've been writing and researching about sex and relationships.

    Read and learn - I certainly have over the years!

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