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    he prefers watching porn to having sex with me

    Want to sort your sex life - fast? This is the second in a series of blogs designed to transform your love life with instant, easy fixes for common couple sex complaints. What if he prefers porn to having sex with me?

    he wants me to swallow

    This is the first of a series of blogs designed to transform your love life with instant, easy fixes for common couple sex complaints. What do I do if he wants me to swallow?

    what to do if he's not up for it part 2

    Your partner’s off sex? Here you’ll find practical solutions to get him back in bed again. But if you haven’t read Part 1, give it a quick read first. It talks about why he may have lost desire - which is crucial to know! Stop trying to seduce him if it’s not working.

    what to do if he's not up for sex part 1

    Popular opinion has women turning to face the wall but more and more often these days, it’s men who are trotting out the ‘Not tonight dear’ line. Why have men gone off sex and what to do if it’s happening to you.

    what to do if she's not up for it part 2

    Sex life been a bit, well, non-existent lately?

    This will help if the woman in your life has been less than interested in sex lately.

    Give Part 1 a quick read first; here, you’ll find practical tips.

    what to do if she's not up for it

    You vowed to forsake all others - now she’s forsaken you. What do you do if you’ve been erotically exiled? Figure out what’s going on in her head, then fix it in bed, that’s what!

    This is the first part of a two-part blog aimed at sorting the problem. Part 1 deals with getting her (and your) head in the right place, Part 2 deals with more practical issues.

    what-to-do-if-you've-run-out-of-ideas-in-bed

    We all know we're supposed to try 'new' things in bed to keep everything spicy. But what if you can't think of anything?

    Lots of couples think the 'new' thing has to be something crazy kinky to work. It doesn't.

    The trick is to try one or two small things and build from there.

    Here's some ideas to get you started:

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    Want to be a great lover?

    Forget everything you’ve ever learnt from porn. Porn is a great accompaniment to solo sex sessions and can work wonders to jazz up a tired monogamous relationship if you watch it together. But if you’re using it as sex education, you really are deluded. Here’s six really bad lessons porn teaches you about sex if you’re a man.

    how do i suggest a threesome

    Having a threesome is still the most desired and requested fantasy that people want to take through to reality - despite being one of the riskiest!

    And it's not just actually having one that causes problems, merely suggesting it means stepping into precarious territory. Here's how to minimise the fall out.

    how to have lust that lasts

    It's a depressing but inevitable reality that the lovely sexed-up beginning bit of relationships - 'the honeymoon' - has to end.

    There's a reason why we don't stay bathed in those delicious infatuation chemicals: it's emotionally and physically impossible to sustain long-term.

    'It's the body's innate wisdom to turn down the volume because it cannot maintain the lust-crazed state forever or people would eventually collapse with exhaustion', says world famous neurologist and brain-imaging expert Daniel Amen, somewhat shrewdly.

    Infatuation can last anything from 6 months to 2 years but despite wearing us out, when it does make it's inevitable exit, few of us are happy to say a fond farewell.

    Lots of people assume once the intensity and euphoria drops off, it's a sign they're not in love anymore.

    Not true. It's just your brain changing gears so it can release the 'cuddle chemicals', which is when 'true' love really begins.

    Part 1 of this two-part blog talked about the reasons why lust naturally fades. Part 2 is the good bit - all the things you can do to trick Mother Nature.

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