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I get asked a variation of this question around once a week and it makes me sad every single time.

Even in these enlightened times – when there is so much good, non-judgemental, practical information about sex so readily available – we all still buy into the same old myths that serve only to make us feel bad about ourselves.

So many (many) women feel guilty for being able to orgasm quickly and easily using a vibrator.

This is what a 50-year-old woman wrote to me this week:

This article about unequal love first ran as my column on The MailOnline but I got so many emails following it, I wanted to give it a permanent home on my website. 

Your heart still flip-flops when you hear your partner’s key in the door years after you met.

Their idea of being demonstrative on a milestone birthday is an impersonal present and a kiss on the forehead.

When ‘I love you’s’ are exchanged, most people assume that means you will both love each other equally as much.

But the truth is, around one-fifth of people experience ‘unequal love’: when one person loves more than the other.